In reply to teflonpete: Have had a few climbing b/f's and for me it doesn't tend to work. They've climbed harder than me and I'm normally having to push myself when sometimes I can't be arsed. If I say no, then b/f would get stroppy, but if I climb something that's too hard for me, then I get stressed and stroppy. Lost count of the amount of times I've told b/f's to f*ck off, when in a stressful situation.
But I always thought I could never have a serious relationship with someone who didn't climb as my life was all about climbing and everything was centred around climbing.
That was until I met my partner who I'm with now. He doesn't climb as such. He loves the hills and will go walking and scrambling and he's a lot braver than me when it comes to scrambling! But he hates tying into a rope (took him out for a winter route once <my passion> and he hated it) and I won't do that to him again if he doesn't want to. He would never go to a climbing wall, whereas I go twice a week to train.
But he's very lenient about me going away climbing whenever I want to, and would never insist I spend time with him.
But fact is, I love him so much and he's so important to me that I'm more than willing to miss weekends out climbing. It doesn't feel like a sacrifice at all as I *want* to spend time with him. And since we've been together I've done loads of things that I havn't done for years cos I've been too busy climbing, like go out for meals, go and see bands etc.
But we will go out hillwalking together which is really nice and we're talking about going to the Alps together which will be amazing. Won't be to do anything technical that requires a rope, but I'm happy just doing PD stuff as I've never been to the Alps before (and excuse me if I got the grade wrong cos I can't ever seem to remember that grading. PD is after F right, but before D. Then AD is after D? Or is it F,PD,AD,D?)