In reply to Tall Clare:
> (In reply to grumpybearpantsclimbinggoat)
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> I kind of agree, but on the other hand - and this is purely from my own perspective - the thought of being a 'bridezilla' and starting to issue orders about who can and can't do this and that seems massively egotistical. Yes, it's 'our' day, but people will be travelling to see us, more than likely having to stay overnight, often buying new outfits, and then if they want to buy presents too...
I'm not attempting to argue here so please don't take anything the wrong way.
1. they do not have to come and therefore expend monies on overnight stays.
2. they do not have to buy outfits.
3. The don't even have to buy you a present.
At the end of the day you are offering them an opportunity to celebrate your union. They are not being forced into it and if they do then there could be inherent costs to do so.
My family on my father's side expect to be invited for the free party. That to me was the wrong focus and why they were not present at my wedding.
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> Though I'm quite prepared to admit that some of my reluctance to be 'the centre of attention' is because of all the years of event management I've done - I'd far rather be in the background with a pen and a running order
Whilst you may want to be in the background this will not be an option.
And more importantly - congratulations, have a lovely day (and honeymoon too).
And that goes for those that have theirs coming soon too.