In reply to MargieB: We have mobile climbing walls at events and Munchkin has always asked me to ask if she can go on, it's also always been a no!
I don't know if it's where I live, that she's smallish for her age or what but outside of going to the wall the reaction to her climbing has been far from positive. Locally people have got to know her and where it used to be quite in our face; parents trying to 'rescue' her, A dad who shouted at his son for not climbing what Frey climbed, another Dad who said to me it encouraged other kids to do stuff that isn't safe, the fact that her friends just walk away when she climbs, a boy who told her she wasn't a girl, countless other kids telling her she isn't allowed because she's too young. I've developed the hide of a rhino, at one point frey stopped climbing altogether unless she was on her own in a park, even worse she pretended she couldn't do stuff she'd been doing for months with ease (unless alone!).
None of the above has been for scaling walls, nothing weird, it's been for climbing climbing frames in playgrounds!
More recently one mum told her daughter not to try what Munchkin does because she's 'different' and since she's made public that she goes climbing now it's a little more accepted as 'she has lessons' (which she doesn't really).
The other thing that's said nigh on constantly is that she's fearless and that's total rubbish. I watch her, she is as aware as any other kid when she's well within her limits and reacts completely normally when on the edge of her ability, low down she just hesitates, higher up she asks for help PDQ! She has more near misses doing stuff within normal age range because she's breezing it and away with the fairies, when she's stretching herself she pays attention, asks for protection etc.
She juggles climbing and being social, I'm glad she lets being social win, I think she's a smart cookie and non conformism, while great, should be for an age where she appreciates the costs and still chooses it in her own right, for her own reasons. Right now, as much as she loves to climb it isn't worth the cost to her when she's forced to choose between it and friendship. Even a little glimmer that both could be on offer and she's like a moth to a flame, blatantly, explicitly and a little desperately - how do I not feel that with her? That's why I did it again but I'm her Mum, and for some stuff, Mum's don't count, at least not the same way.