So, there I was, using my drill to make a few holes in a bit of wood, when in came a bloke and doing a double take, said "are you sure that you are alright using that?"
Now, seeing as a drill isn't actually very complicated, and seeing as I can drive a car, which is a lot more complicated and lethal, I wasn't quite sure what point he was trying to make. Still, I smiled politely and nodded, that yes, I could manage.
Anyhoo - later on, we had to saw up some wood, so he proudly got out his jigsaw, at which point I whipped out my HUGE circular saw and chopped everything up at twice the speed.
He hurumphed.... "hmmm, that's a bit over overkill, isn't it?" and looked most put out. I think he was just disappointed that a woman had a bigger tool than he did.
In reply to JM: A bit of a p*ssing contest and a fair amount of p***s envy going on by both parties if you ask me ;-)
Turning it round, there I was making some lovely little cup cakes when this girl walks in and asks if I'm alright, when it came to ice them and I had the Nigella Lawson piping set and swirled my pink icing into the most to die for little waves she went off in a humpf. ;-) eh eh?
In reply to tlm:
Were you at woodwork club? (What's the first rule of woodwork club? Don't try to rout too deeply in a single pass.)
Or is he just the kind of bloke who carries a jigsaw around just in case he wants to whip it out and impress the girls?
We men are sensitive little creatures that, unless our egos are massaged regularly, will wilt away and we will become quivering jellies.
I love playing with my circular saw.
On another note which may please, depending on your point of view and sense of humour, but I will let you decide. A few years ago my day used to have a one-man-factory with a big band-saw and his daughter, my sister, was going through a very nasty divorce with a bstd of a husband.
Anyhow, her ex had a very large collection of technical computer books which he loved most dearly.
My sister took great pleasure in slicing each end every book perpendicularly from spine to the opposite edge. The said books were then returned to the ex in one huge box.
At no point did my sister ask our dad how to use the band-saw. But then she is head of science at her place of work.
A sad combination of too many women being the "honey-I-broke-a-nail" type who wouldn't be seen dead with a power tool, and a man who has either had a little too much exposure to said women, or is a bit sexist anyway.
And (sorry) a slight element of willy-waving (or equivilent thereof) on the part of the OP.
Some men do have a strange and intransigent attitude toward women who either profess practical skills or enquire of them.
One of my friends is a very practical woman who fixes and fits almost everything in her house. She's also blonde, a natural smiler and attractive too. A while ago I was with her in a plumbers' merchants while she was purchasing a sink unit. She asked one guy working in the merchants a couple of simple advice-type questions about fitting it, but he really didn't want to speak to her about it. I could see his eyes glazing as she asked the question, and then he replied "Just ask your plumber, he'll sort it out for you"! Maybe he didn't actually know the answer, but I rather suspect he didn't feel he should waste his time answering a woman.
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> Some men do have a strange and intransigent attitude toward women who either profess practical skills or enquire of them.
I'm sure the ladies on here also have plenty of personal experience (as climbers) of men who feel that women are all week and feeble and are rather surprised when it turns out not to be the case.
My personal favourite was when we were moving house and watching the romoval man's face when Lady Blue (5'8 and very slim) almost offhandedly carried a 6' bookcase into the house.
The trouble is that I've had the misfortune to meet so many of the honey-I-broke-a-nail types one does wonder whether its the fault of the men for being sexist, or a lot of women for being (sorry) a bit pathetic.
> (In reply to tlm) I f*cking wish my missus was a demon DIYer, cos I hate it. It's not that I'm bad at it either, so I can't use the excuse that I'd balls it up.
Ha! I know your issue, I don't mind DIY but when I'm being given orders I have to inquire what she's going to be doing. If she's making dinner or cake then that's fine Sometimes I can get her to pick up a paint brush, but then I have to deal with her getting stroppy when I suggest she puts on old clothes/overalls to which she refuses, then gets stroppy when she inevitably (always!) gets paint on herself.
Oh I'd love for a lady take out a circular saw and cut some wood for me
My slightly younger than me, sister, is far, far more skilled at carpentry than most people. She's a trained cabinet maker and designer. She runs The Goodlife Centre in London. Going round car boot sales, she can spot a good make of chisel,, plane or power tool from 50yds and drive a hard bargain too.
when i met the girll who i eventually married, thered been a minor accident (dislocated shoulder, a bit of blood) and i stepped in all commando to fix it 'outta the way ladies, ill take care of this' type stuff. last thing we needed was some girl fainting from the blood or faffing about hen pecking.
that she flicked me aside should have been enough, but my ego is too big for that. wasnt until she told me she is an ER team leader that i shrunk back to normal...
many has been the time when weve been out and shes responded to a sudden event whilst i stood by doing litle more crowd control. ive seen her stand down ambulance crews who made the mistake i did.
you people are very flattering, but really, beyond the tales people will tell you im pretty uncool.
i have some camp fire stories and dubious opinions, but a good looking gay guy is a hard standard to live up to.
In reply to Timmd: im only the same height as your friend and was the only woman on the course. The guys took the mickey, not thinking i'd be any good. At the end of the week, they all had bad backs & i had a broken nail.
Not wearing ppe is bad!
> ... a good looking gay guy is a hard standard to live up to.
I'd second that. And a good-looking gay guy who takes you climbing and paddling, and rescues you from the hills when you can't walk another yard but there's no bus for another week, and checks out awesome-looking-houses-for-sale for you while you're abroad, is completely unbeatable. And there's none of the crap hostility you get from so many straight guys, who seem to think you're going to bite their balls off if they soften up any.
Should add, though, that good-looking is an optional extra: handsome is as handsome does, as my grandfather used to say. Also that I'm the first to applaud any act of heroism, and that the only place for impeccably manicured nails is inside a pair of dainty walking boots.
It's not so much a post about men not helping woman but more about some men questioning a woman's ability to do something. If it was a genuine offer of help when someone is struggling then I'm sure it wouldn't have been posted about.