In reply to spearing05:
> As you said above there is probably a huge overlap but if you were to take a random person from a sample of those who could happily enjoy the physical act of sex with absolutely no emotions attached and one who couldn't there would be a greater than average chance that the first would be male and the second female.
What are you basing your idea here on? On your own expectations? On your own experience? On scientific study? How likely is it that a woman who has enjoyed meaningless sex would talk to you about it? After all, social expectation says that she should keep pretty quiet about it or risk being labelled a slapper.
For every heterosexual one night stand that happens, there are equal instances of men and women taking part.
> if it exists then it needs to be acknowledged rather than just repeating over and over 'we are the same' till everyone agrees.
But that is it. We are ALL different. You aren't the same as all other men. You might be closer in similarity to some women than you are to some men. Or you might be very unlike some women, or very unlike some men. You can probably picture, right now, in your minds eye, a man that you are very similar to and another that is your antithesis.
> If you were to assume just for a minute that there is a difference, don't you think denying it in the pursuit of some utopian view of equality would likely be as damaging in the long run as exaggerating it? If so, surely it is better to take every case on its merits rather than try and force a one size fits all world view on everyone else because it is what you believe is fair?
You are making the exact argument that I would make myself there. We should take each case on its own merits. We shouldn't make an assumption that all women are equal, or that all men are equal. We should make space to allow people to be individuals. A man might WANT to have custody of his kids after a divorce, or might WANT to bring up his new born baby and have leave from work to allow him to do so. Or maybe he might never want any children and will just want to sleep with lots of random other men, just for fun. Or he might be too wrapped up in his work for sex of any type.
Why should he be forced into one single mould?