In reply to Edvenables: As another poster has mentioned the 'rise' is the distance between waist and leg loops.
The rise is generally longer on women's harness so it is worth keeping looking at them. However Metolius is unfortunately the only manufacturer to specifically make a harness where you can adjust the rise separately.
If the issue is the rise height, swapping leg loops probably won't work with most harnesses. It might be worth looking at some of the newer Black Diamond harnesses as their latest 'trakFIT' leg loop adjustment system has the side effect of altering the rise height slightly but equally that might mean they are even worse rather than better.
However, I can sympathise as I can never find harnesses that fit either, although for almost the opposite reasons.