In reply to marsbar:
> Its not something I could put up with. You may be more patient than me, in which case good luck.
It's driving me mad, but changing or leaving isn't an option, I couldn't do that to the kids. We've thankfully got a great relationship with most of the parents, and they know what's happening & are thankfully very supportive. I do most of the admin now, run each week's night, write the weekly emails to parents etc., but he still won't hand over the actual troop census data (thankfully going onto Compass soon so he has no choice) or to make executive decisions about kit or camps.
I'm going to sit down with him very soon and outline how I feel, as nocker advised.
I don't want to push him out, but at the same time, I can't continue as it is now; it's annoying me more and more, and it's winding up my GF too as she can tell how it's making me more grumpy than normal. I doubt that getting anyone in from outside to talk to him will help, but would probably do more harm than good.
We can't and won't exclude him, that's not an option, but I think he does need to understand that it's time to let go.