In reply to Dave the Rave:
> ' are you ok' she asked. 'Yes thanks' I replied.
> 'Smacking is now frowned upon, and there are better ways to vent your anger'. She said.
> 'Ive tried those and you need to mind your own business' I replied.
> Although I thank her for her concern, her intervention was most unwelcome.
> I'm a good parent I think.
> How much is smacking children in public frowned upon nowadays?
In reverse order:
- quite a lot. I think a societal norm is shifting, and that always makes the people in the transition period uncomfortable (think of the gap with your parents' attitudes)
- I wouldn't be able to judge on one (self-disclosed) incident. Parenting is a tough game and *all* "good" parents have done things they regretted afterwards. It's frustrating because it's a learning experience that never quite prepares you for what's next.
- She sounds as if she made the lowest-key approach to the issue she could - asking if you were ok. Was her intrusion unwelcome because it made things worse, or just because it's made you feel bad?
Maybe taking child home and putting him/her in the garden/room for a while might have been an alternative?
PS. I smacked my kids a couple of times in similar circumstances, so really do empathise with the "nowhere to go" situation. And, of course, they are absolutely fine. But that doesn't mean it was the right thing to do or that I don't regret not being "better" than I was able to be.