In reply to FactorXXX:
> They don't sound fake to me. I don't mean to be rude to you, but its comments like that that minimise the problem, the reality is that women and girls aren't safe from that kind of behaviour. Its upsetting and horrible. Meanwhile so many of the men like yourself that wouldn't behave that way are in denial.
> I'm fairly sure such things happen. However, things like having your car roof slashed are so rare, that when I read it in one of the first sentences of the article, I just turned off and assumed that the author was on a 'mission'. Indeed, if you read the rest of the article, it's all written in a 'holier than thou' manner and totally doesn't want me to engage with the writer or listen to what they have to say.
How can you know the writer doesn't want you to engage with what is written? Your reaction to what's written and perception of it, doesn't define how it'll be for everybody else. So it isn't that it 'is' holier than thou, more that 'you find it' holier than though. If it was holier than though to everybody - I'd have thought that too.
> I'm most definitely not in denial about the way some men treat women. I've witnessed it and if I know the person, will tell them that their behaviour is inappropriate, etc. I recognise that there are problems, thankfully not anything like there was a generation or so ago, but I feel that the approach typified by the article in question is going to do absolutely nothing to make borderline offenders change their behaviour to females.
> In essence, they are preaching to likeminded people, who will all say how brilliant the article is. If you want to engage and hopefully change the behaviour of the borderline offenders, then maybe write the article(s) in a more balanced fashion and not in a such a patronising way.
Except, if you peruse further, you'll find that men have posted on facebook in response to it saying how what is written made them stop and think about how they have behaved previously, making them want to be the person to stop another man from being the same. Some of whom you possibly might call borderline offenders, having read some of their posts on fb, like expecting sex in return for kindness (but not going as far demanding it).
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