In reply to La benya:
> why should i have picked a career based on where the cheapest real estate is rather than where i grew up, why my family ties are, where the industry that interests me and plays to my strengths is and where my cultural and social interests lie?
OK, I'll try and explain my view. Apologies for being sharp.
The way the world works is that you choose a career (most of the time). Unfortunately you have to accept that this career may result in a bad side as well as a good side.
e.g. Lady Blue, as an optician, has to accept that it is overwhelmingly likely she has to work Saturdays. That has a pretty major effect on our weekends.
e.g. I have to accept that if I want to do the best I can in my career (financial sector) I'll probably end up living in hotels or B&Bs during the week.
When we chose those jobs we accepted that downside. In fact, every choice you make in your life has a downside.
Where there's an issue for me is where someone states that they want something (e.g. living and working in London) but then doesn't accept the downside, or blames the downside on someone else, or another generation, or the government, and generally refuses to take ownership of the fact that choices have consequences. If it's your choice, it's your consequence too.
"Entitled and Arrogant" comes from the "we deserve" mentality - e.g. I deserve to live in London AND be able to buy a house AND have a good job AND have an exciting cultural and social life AND be near my family. Nope, you "deserve" none of that. You have to earn it. Most people don't ever achieve it.
The "snobby" bit was in response to your disparaging view of the kind of places where coal miners lived. Actually, that's some of the most beautiful and wonderful parts of Britain with fantastic scenary and great people..
Also, I know it's an oft-repeated refrain, but people like me (if you like) often are confused with attitudes of the generations that came after us. You mention that if you cut back on everything you might be able to save 200-300 quid a month.
Now to me that means that in 5 years you might have nearly 20k, and that's enough for a 10% deposit on a 200k house - or a 5% deposit on a 400k house - I've just done a quick run on moneysupermarket and come up with 35 FTB mortgages offering 95% mortgages on a 400k house at 2.5%, by the way. So, to me, if you cut back and saved for 5 years you could buy a house quite easily. It wouldn't be a fun five years, I'll admit that. But that's exactly what my generation had to do - spend years saving for a deposit, not fun years either.
So when someone comes along and says "I'll never be able to buy a house, other generations had it so much better, I'll have to eat pot noodles", then I think back to when I was eating kwiksave no-frills fish fingers (different generation, same vitamin content) for exactly the same reason and start wondering what the current generation's problem is... ESPECIALLY if they're bemoning that they can't find a place to buy in the most expensive part of the UK.
Hope that helps.
Post edited at 15:18