In reply to rockwing:
> Have you been to a non-religious ceremony that you would recommend?
I've been to a few humanist weddings, they're fine, but the best I ever went to was one of these:
> unless we went to a registry office to confirm the ceremony.
But the other way around. The 'legal' wedding first, a quick registry office do with just parents present to witness, then the 'real' one the following day.
On the day they had hired a barn and the field it stands in (not a particularly agricultural one, the field is sometimes used to grow turf commercially but it's set up for this kind of thing with electricity, a wee kitchen and proper toilets).
With all friends & family in attendance, they conducted their own ceremony themselves. Welcomed everybody, each spoke about how they met the other and what first attracted them to each other, made their vows, exchanged rings and then invited anyone else who wanted to speak to speak. Some more conventional speeches were made, best man, parents etc. After toasts were proposed the drink began to flow and one or two pals stood up to make impromptu speeches too, there was some good natured heckling, and then the happy couple wound up the ceremony and the whole thing segued into the party just as the band rocked up to set up for the ceilidh.
Being a very 'outdoorsy' couple, most of their friends were happy camping around the margin of the field. Others, and most of the family were in guest houses around about. Not everybody's cup of tea for sure, and it must have been a bit daunting conducting the ceremony themselves but it was an extraordinarily good do.