In reply to CJD:
i think there are too many different people with too many different secrets to come up with any overall rules
i think Pete W made his reasons forsharing his story widely clear, and they seemed courageous and worthwhile
but there's of course many things i wouldn't want to share with any of you lot... no offense meant!
some i've told friends about; some i haven't, i don't see what would be gained from it
i think sometimes a problem shared *is* a burden made lighter, but not always; i can think of some things that, for example, i know that i dont think i'm supposed to about other people i know, and if they knew i knew, it would be more difficult for them, if you see what i mean...
sounds like if you felt better for it, and the confidant was ok with hearing it, which seems to be the case from what you've said, it was the right thing to do.
all the best,
gregor