In reply to leeangell:
I think you are both right.
You push your grade, and if you are making small steps, then the gear is a safety net if you make a mistake due to pump, stress, or just plain stupidity.
To fall on gear, knowin that you are pushing too hard, and you are gonna take a whipper, is sport climbing, and is the wrong approach to trad, in my opinion....
I have seen sport climbers on Malham, who seem blatantly obvious unable to climb at the standard they are dogging, clip sticking and generally arsing about.
Surely it is better to onsight something, enjoy the climbing, and work through the grades enjoying your climbing, rather than bragging about "working" a route, or your latest 8a? Even if you do take a few sport falls, thats fine.
It seems that ego is involved, and wanting to tick each grade, and say you are an E4 cliber or whatever, but how about the old fashioned apprenticeship, that until you could onsite just about every VS you started, you were not ready for HVS. If you have climbed one VS, a VS climber you do not make.