In reply to Postmanpat:
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> Just know a number of slightly embittered middle aged men
Yeah - I know people who think that because they allowed their other half to reduce their potential earnings by taking time off work to bring up the couple's children (on the basis that married life is a team effort), not pay into a pension scheme, not be able to afford to contribute equally to the mortgage payments etc, that somehow, when they split up, the earner should be able to keep all the goodies.
I do also know cases where the person who has the children living with them the majority of the time has kept the family home, and the other person has ended up having to rent.
But I've never heard of a case where someone got more stuff, purely on the basis of being female?
I've heard people say that they felt they gave too much, but I've never heard anyone gloat that they were able to screw over another person and get more than their fair share...
I always wonder if some of it is the bitterness and upset of all those emotions that are around in a divorce?