In reply to timjones:
> Wait until you have a young child and then you may well change your mind. How do youy think kids learn to throw tantrums?
I've been closely involved in the bringing up of my nephew and niece, and my sister and her husband didn't leave them to cry in public as they were conscious that this is not a good thing to do for everyone. Calming a baby is not the same as giving a child having a tantrum the thing they unreasonably want - and if that occurs it's time to go outside with them and tell them off properly, not ignore them and leave them screaming to everyone's detriment.
> I'd say it is acceptable where the child settles within a few minutes but necessary to respond if it takes longer.
We certainly differ on that. Leaving a baby to cry for minutes seems to me too much, both for them and for others around you.
> Maybe the time that it takes for a really irritating music track to finish on the sound system at a venue should be used as a gauge for how long is acceptable
> Even adults blindly wander into unsafe areas, should all adults be supervised too
Inexperienced climbers need to be supervised properly, yes. If they wander into dangerous areas, that's the fault of the supervisor, and I'd be happy with that leading to consequences for the supervisor, yes. Some people don't take seriously signing people into a wall, and they do need to do so. Such as the muppet I saw wandering around a wall the other week with an un-doubled-back harness - I think his supervisor had gone bouldering and left him to play on the autobelays - this is totally unacceptable and could easily have led to his death.
> It has "evolved" as a means for a child to get attention, it has not "evolved" to be an irritation to adults. If you find it irritating that is not the childs problem, many things can be irritating, we can't restrict them all, tolerance is the key.
It has evolved into adults to feel compelled to respond to it, which if they can't (as it is not their child) it is highly stressful. Maybe you don't respond that way (people have after all got different traits and responses) but you should really consider all those around you, not just those who respond in the same way. I personally find an upset person in general quite distressing if I can't help them - a child even more so.
As a result I certainly find it a lot more stressful than e.g. someone playing music out loud, even if I don't like that music. (Actually, that leads me onto another bugbear - people who don't think it is necessary to use headphones when listening to / watching media on tablets/laptops/phones on trains and the likes - but that's for another thread
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