In reply to Indy:
> I'm guessing that having cancer and going through chemo is shit and that maybe the top priority isn't keeping a no doubt well meaning but needy friend up to date or would you prefer the cancer sufferer to say "fu*k off and leave me alone"
Unless she's been asking him to ring? You haven't checked, and the OP seems just to be after some way of finding out what's happening.
Maybe losing what feels like a lot of people to cancer has left a mark, but I wouldn't think it's hard to be civil (and a little bit delicate) given the sad topic.
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