In reply to SiobhanStraver:
Having read the replies to your post I've found most very unproductive - this is my take on things.
During 2016 I started leading some harder trad climbs, E1's, E2's and a couple of E3's and an E4. A lot of them were graded at that due to the boldness, I was very comfortable climbing in positions where a fall would mean decking, and was regularly soloing tech 4c/5a.
At the start of 2017 I fell off
The Genie (V 7) and dislocated my shoulder, the ice axe catching on something as I fell. It wasn't so much the injury itself that was bad, but the 3 day drive changing gear right handed and subsequent 2 weeks with one arm in a sling, struggling to do really basic things.
Clearly in the scheme of things it wasn't a bad injury, so after 6 weeks I was back climbing...to find myself struggling on Severes, HS's...climbs that previously I would have solo'd without a care in the world that suddenly I was freaking out and getting pumped on. The moment I got above gear I became incredibly timid.
It all came to a head climbing at Tremadog. After having a complete mare on
Pretzl Logic (E2 5c), I led a classic VS and suddenly felt as if I could climb again. Oddly enough it was a big lead fall off
The Strand (E2 5b) that cemented my re-found confidence. During that fall I was airborn for long enough to unwrap the rope from around my leg, a surreal matrix style moment.
My suggestion to her - keep climbing and at some point things will click again. Equally falling off safely is a skill that most people, myself included, neglect. Learning how to fall off whilst maintaining some degree of control could provide the confidence boost that she needs to enjoy leading again.