In reply to The Ice Doctor: Along the lines of being an outsider, the wisdom behind this quote from Will Smith suddenly struck me while in bed a couple of nights ago, being that if one chases people, one's own 'more authentic life' isn't being lived, while their's potentially are, where as if one is doing what really makes one happy, in terms of hobbies and career and what have you, the people one comes across (so long as one connects with them and has something in common) will more naturally have a place in one's life.
''Don't chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard. The right people - the ones who really belong in your life - will come to you. And stay.''
Having lost a parent who was 66 when I was 33, and nearly lost my life a couple of times in cycling accidents (my rear wheel being dented by a bus was thought provoking), I guess I've thought about death, and talked about it with family too in the first instance. In the end, we just need to wring the most amount of living out of life as we can before the inevitable happens, and for some that's climbing mountains. There's a lot to be said about death, but none of us really know how to grasp it's significance I reckon. When a famous French mountain guide and prolific mountaineer died a few years ago (doing an 'enchainment' of summits in France IIRC), a woman who knew him very well said that he was one of the few mountaineers she'd met who climbed mountains simply from a genuine enjoyment of their beauty, rather than from having some demon lurking within which they were keeping at bay through being in the mountains. Perhaps a certain amount of therapy and/or self awareness through introspection could be key for a life lived most fully, in terms of being at peace as well as doing things too*?
*Fulfillment could seem to come from a mixture of the two.
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