In reply to humptydumpty:
Personally I'd probably use either a BD Gridlock Magnetron or a DMM Belaymaster and have some sort of back up.
However if you want something super strong and utterly secure then you have two slightly conflicting requirements.
If you are really worried about failure when cross loaded you need look for something that meets the ANSI specification (IIRC 3600 pounds cross loaded which standard screwgates DO NOT meet). There are various options from DMM's industrial range.
That said there is also the possibility of the gate coming open, in which case it might be more prudent to go for a '4-way' locking gate mechanism. Both DMM and ISC do these, although that might be being too paranoid.
One other thing to consider is that many carabiners are available with a captive bar option for permanent (or at least long term) attachment to harnesses which eliminates or at least vastly reduces the chance of cross loading in the first place.
Anyway, the DMM ANSI Locksafe 30kN Boa (captive bar option available) might be the closest thing to what you're asking for and is probably worth a close look -
http://dmmprofessional.com/products/boa-30kn-ansi-locksafe-a907ansi/