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Well I'm often told I'm a complete let down on Valentines day, something I do or don't do always spoils it. So I'm wondering if it means much to men or is it just for women. Seems I'm unaware of the things or lack of them I do on the great day so obviously must not mean that much to me, or I have extra sensitive women in my life, quite possible.
Anyway, this year I'm planning on making a difference, trying to understand what its all about and see if I can grip why it's so special to be all pink and fluffy for the day.
Anyway, this year I'm planning on making a difference, trying to understand what its all about and see if I can grip why it's so special to be all pink and fluffy for the day.
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
hey there. im a woman and i think V day is a commercial waste of money... if you love someone it should be on your own terms, not a forced thing once a year.
Later!
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hey there. im a woman and i think V day is a commercial waste of money... if you love someone it should be on your own terms, not a forced thing once a year.
Later!
x
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
Bunch of rubbish. Both the chap and I agree on that, although for some reason we feel it necessary to buy each other gifts and have a meal together.Mind you, I don't celebrate the 25th Dec as the day Christ was born but I still give and receive gifts and have a meal with loved ones despite being agnostic....
It annoys me (equally now as to when I was single) that someone tries to dictate a day where you express how much someone means to you. Personally, I'm happy to do that any day of the week/month/year.
Bunch of rubbish. Both the chap and I agree on that, although for some reason we feel it necessary to buy each other gifts and have a meal together.Mind you, I don't celebrate the 25th Dec as the day Christ was born but I still give and receive gifts and have a meal with loved ones despite being agnostic....
It annoys me (equally now as to when I was single) that someone tries to dictate a day where you express how much someone means to you. Personally, I'm happy to do that any day of the week/month/year.
In reply to Hjonesy:
I agree. And apparently we all like red roses and bright red cards with hearts on???
Well personally I prefer white flowers, I hate tacky cards, and my best ever valentine's present was a credit card multi-tool thing and a maglite torch from my ex!
No idea what we're doing this year - probably going down the pub! (Last year he cooked me a meal, year before I think we were just down the climbing wall and went for a curry with a mate!).
I agree. And apparently we all like red roses and bright red cards with hearts on???
Well personally I prefer white flowers, I hate tacky cards, and my best ever valentine's present was a credit card multi-tool thing and a maglite torch from my ex!
No idea what we're doing this year - probably going down the pub! (Last year he cooked me a meal, year before I think we were just down the climbing wall and went for a curry with a mate!).
In reply to Hjonesy: Would you be upset if he just didn't bother at all with it, went on like any other day?
I think although the majority of woman feel like you/we do, they would still be upset if forgot about, not sure why that is.
It is after all the same as a birthday, you are not born every year are you, but people feel the need to buy gifts n all that.
I think although the majority of woman feel like you/we do, they would still be upset if forgot about, not sure why that is.
It is after all the same as a birthday, you are not born every year are you, but people feel the need to buy gifts n all that.
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
yeah, but isn't that to celebrate having made it another year without doing something TOO stupid?
> It is after all the same as a birthday, you are not born every year are you, but people feel the need to buy gifts n all that.
yeah, but isn't that to celebrate having made it another year without doing something TOO stupid?
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
Not bothered about it, don't do anything, and don't get upset if other half doesn't do anything either. I find it's an excellend time to go swimming as the pool is normally empty
> Would you be upset if he just didn't bother at all with it, went on like any other day?
> I think although the majority of woman feel like you/we do, they would still be upset if forgot about, not sure why that is.
> I think although the majority of woman feel like you/we do, they would still be upset if forgot about, not sure why that is.
Not bothered about it, don't do anything, and don't get upset if other half doesn't do anything either. I find it's an excellend time to go swimming as the pool is normally empty
In reply to confusicating:
Is it?
I get cards from relatives I don't even know on my birthday, whats all that about.
I have never in my adult life understood birthdays or any of it, like I need an excuse to get together with friends and family? Maybe thats what it is all about, we need to be told when to give out our love because we are so wrapped up in other stuff the rest of the time, I dunno.
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Is it?
I get cards from relatives I don't even know on my birthday, whats all that about.
I have never in my adult life understood birthdays or any of it, like I need an excuse to get together with friends and family? Maybe thats what it is all about, we need to be told when to give out our love because we are so wrapped up in other stuff the rest of the time, I dunno.
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
Don't bother my arse with it,never did really. Kinda see it as a day of desperation and commercialism that i can simply do without really. May be a good day to go out climbing though as..all the other folks will be elsewhere being all smoochy'n'stuff
Don't bother my arse with it,never did really. Kinda see it as a day of desperation and commercialism that i can simply do without really. May be a good day to go out climbing though as..all the other folks will be elsewhere being all smoochy'n'stuff
In reply to anansie:
Looks like the men will be being left alone to be smoochy from these replies.
I'm defo attracting the wrong type of women ;(
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> May be a good day to go out climbing though as..all the other folks will be elsewhere being all smoochy'n'stuff
> May be a good day to go out climbing though as..all the other folks will be elsewhere being all smoochy'n'stuff
Looks like the men will be being left alone to be smoochy from these replies.
I'm defo attracting the wrong type of women ;(
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
Up until last year i had never recieved a card or present on valentines day..
Last year got a present and a card and spent the night in tears...
Don't think we are bothering this year :oP
I may even drag my bf to the climbing wall or to do something very un-romantic so when my friends sit and tell me of the wonderfully (vomit worthy) things they got up to - i can know i did something better :oP
Up until last year i had never recieved a card or present on valentines day..
Last year got a present and a card and spent the night in tears...
Don't think we are bothering this year :oP
I may even drag my bf to the climbing wall or to do something very un-romantic so when my friends sit and tell me of the wonderfully (vomit worthy) things they got up to - i can know i did something better :oP
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
This year is going to be the first year in 6 I've not nothing on for valentines day. Last year I wasn't going out with someone as such but I was planning a long distance valentines day suprise involving arranging betty's chocs and a card to magically appear on a ladies desk at work by use of a co-conspiring colleague (try saying this pissed) This year, no menu to plan, no clever plans, nothing. Hate valentines day for its manipulative falseness but it is going to be a bit strange this year.
This year is going to be the first year in 6 I've not nothing on for valentines day. Last year I wasn't going out with someone as such but I was planning a long distance valentines day suprise involving arranging betty's chocs and a card to magically appear on a ladies desk at work by use of a co-conspiring colleague (try saying this pissed) This year, no menu to plan, no clever plans, nothing. Hate valentines day for its manipulative falseness but it is going to be a bit strange this year.
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy: i agree completely with crazydaisy, if you love someone dont wait until one day a year to show your affection for em on some over commercialized holiday. Although saying that it is nice to go out and something semi nice, meal maybe, anything you do i would think will be appreciated, if she doesnt apreciate ask her to plan it next year!
In reply to Kate Edhouse:
This is assuming that those celebrating Valentine's day do not also show their affection any other day of the year; and is Valentine's a holiday?
> (In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy) i agree completely with crazydaisy, if you love someone dont wait until one day a year to show your affection for em on some over commercialized holiday.
This is assuming that those celebrating Valentine's day do not also show their affection any other day of the year; and is Valentine's a holiday?
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
I would be quite happy just to be spending time with my other half, I don't need to be doing anything special..... saying that I've only been with him 3 months, so I suppose I'm still being classed as being in the honeymoon period!
I would be quite happy just to be spending time with my other half, I don't need to be doing anything special..... saying that I've only been with him 3 months, so I suppose I'm still being classed as being in the honeymoon period!
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
So, we can deduce that you are:
a) under the thumb,
b) genuinely in love and don't mind going to extremes in order to point this out,
c) have a guilty conscience, and are trying to use valentine's day to prove your innocence,
d) trolling.
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> Anyway, this year I'm planning on making a difference, trying to understand what its all about and see if I can grip why it's so special to be all pink and fluffy for the day.
So, we can deduce that you are:
a) under the thumb,
b) genuinely in love and don't mind going to extremes in order to point this out,
c) have a guilty conscience, and are trying to use valentine's day to prove your innocence,
d) trolling.
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In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
I agree with the other ladies here- Valentines Day is just commercial. Sure, it'd be nice to get flowers- BUT- I'd appreciate flowers any day! And if I was with someone, and in years past when I have been, I'd do something little to show that I was acknowledging the day, but would make sure that nothing big was going to happen. Certainly not over-priced flowers and over-booked restaurants.
A home cooked meal and a big sloppy kiss is enough and that is any day, not just V Day.
If you want to do something over the top for your lady, wait until she isnt expecting it, and it'll be so much sweeter.
I agree with the other ladies here- Valentines Day is just commercial. Sure, it'd be nice to get flowers- BUT- I'd appreciate flowers any day! And if I was with someone, and in years past when I have been, I'd do something little to show that I was acknowledging the day, but would make sure that nothing big was going to happen. Certainly not over-priced flowers and over-booked restaurants.
A home cooked meal and a big sloppy kiss is enough and that is any day, not just V Day.
If you want to do something over the top for your lady, wait until she isnt expecting it, and it'll be so much sweeter.
In reply to Dominion:
B I think, I can see no reason why it would put me out so much to try this, it isn't like I don't make the effort in normal everyday life (like this is), but if it brings a little happiness to her life and she can have something to think about for a few days after then I'm cool with that.
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B I think, I can see no reason why it would put me out so much to try this, it isn't like I don't make the effort in normal everyday life (like this is), but if it brings a little happiness to her life and she can have something to think about for a few days after then I'm cool with that.
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
Well, Valentine's day in itself doesnt mean much to me, but I know it menas a lot to the girlfriend, so if I put in some effort (and money, yes, its a rip-off!) to giving her a really nice time, then she feels great and that gives me a lot of pleasure, so we both enjoy ourselves. There are clearly some women on here who dont think much of it, but I know there are many who do! As an indication, she is working in the US for a few months and she was adamant that the week I had to visit her had to be next week (rather than eg her birthday) s othat's when Im going! Not complaining though, Florida will be fun
Anyway, a card with a nice message, some roses & chocs and a nice meal seems to do the trick?
Well, Valentine's day in itself doesnt mean much to me, but I know it menas a lot to the girlfriend, so if I put in some effort (and money, yes, its a rip-off!) to giving her a really nice time, then she feels great and that gives me a lot of pleasure, so we both enjoy ourselves. There are clearly some women on here who dont think much of it, but I know there are many who do! As an indication, she is working in the US for a few months and she was adamant that the week I had to visit her had to be next week (rather than eg her birthday) s othat's when Im going! Not complaining though, Florida will be fun
Anyway, a card with a nice message, some roses & chocs and a nice meal seems to do the trick?
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
How all very post-modern of you all. Ignore the commercialism and have a bit of fun - it's good to be reminded of your relationships' roots - at least once a year - particularly if there's young kids about.
I don't like tacky cards either - expend some effort and find a tasteful one.
How all very post-modern of you all. Ignore the commercialism and have a bit of fun - it's good to be reminded of your relationships' roots - at least once a year - particularly if there's young kids about.
I don't like tacky cards either - expend some effort and find a tasteful one.
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
Ha, my valentine's day is planned. Going to the pub with the bloke to finalise plans for our forthcoming mountaineering trip. How romantic LOL!!
(we may even stretch to Pizza Express LOL!)
Ha, my valentine's day is planned. Going to the pub with the bloke to finalise plans for our forthcoming mountaineering trip. How romantic LOL!!
(we may even stretch to Pizza Express LOL!)
In reply to Caralynr: I have the long distance thing going on so need to make a bit more effort than pub and pizza I think, although it has been my prefered ideal before now. Think I might try and hold onto this one for a while
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy: surely once you're a couple there's no longer any point to valentines
when did it stop being just for secret admirers?
when did it stop being just for secret admirers?
In reply to rich:
I dunno much about how it came about or what it's about really. I know I used to get the daftest cards at school,
Roses are red,
blah de blah blah
Thats about as far as it goes with me.
> (In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy) surely once you're a couple there's no longer any point to valentines
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> when did it stop being just for secret admirers?
I dunno much about how it came about or what it's about really. I know I used to get the daftest cards at school,
Roses are red,
blah de blah blah
Thats about as far as it goes with me.
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
Can I go against the general flow here and say "Do something niiiiice!" I am a huge romantic at heart so maybe I'm biased but what harm can it really do to buy some flowers, send a card and buy a little gift and/or take her out. It would be a pretty churlish girl that would be miffed at you for going to such an effort for her.
Awwwww, wish I had a nice chappie to do that for me....sigh....quiet weep...
Can I go against the general flow here and say "Do something niiiiice!" I am a huge romantic at heart so maybe I'm biased but what harm can it really do to buy some flowers, send a card and buy a little gift and/or take her out. It would be a pretty churlish girl that would be miffed at you for going to such an effort for her.
Awwwww, wish I had a nice chappie to do that for me....sigh....quiet weep...
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
hahaha...I think it's load of crap and shall be down the Works climbing, my one true love!
hahaha...I think it's load of crap and shall be down the Works climbing, my one true love!
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
see lads, all the wimmin say valentines day is a heap of crap, but if they do not get owt they will be tearing their wigs off.
WIMMIN, we will never understand them.
see lads, all the wimmin say valentines day is a heap of crap, but if they do not get owt they will be tearing their wigs off.
WIMMIN, we will never understand them.
In reply to sutty:
I thought the point of valentines was simply to rub it in our faces just how happy you are, for the rest of us feeling alone and miserable. Yep that's me,
I thought the point of valentines was simply to rub it in our faces just how happy you are, for the rest of us feeling alone and miserable. Yep that's me,
In reply to Shortbread:
You silly sod, just smile at people and you will not be alone long.
BTW, I notice you do marital arts, all that throwing women on the mat and kicking them in the teeth is not in the karma sutty you know.
You silly sod, just smile at people and you will not be alone long.
BTW, I notice you do marital arts, all that throwing women on the mat and kicking them in the teeth is not in the karma sutty you know.
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy: ...my wife says she will leave it to me to decide if i should buy her a card...i don't buy the said card and she moans...>!
In reply to sutty: "karma sutty" LoL! That should be in the UKC Lexicon
In reply to Shortbread:
Some of my best Valentines days have been when I was single. My single friends and I would go out for an anti-Valentines dinner and have a laugh looking at all of the couples sitting in silence in the cringey forced scenario.
I definitely object to going out for dinner as a couple on Valentines purely because so many restaurants crank their prices up for the night just because you get a heart-shaped piece of shortbread with coffee or something equally moronic.
In reply to M-T-R-T, I probably wouldn't be too upset if Valentines went 'ignored' by the chap, if we were both aware that we weren't going to do anything. I'd be gutted if I'd bought him a gift and he didn't get me anything, but that's just because I'm a brat and nothing to do with whether I'd question his feelings for me. He assures me enough of his feelings, I don't need a crud card with a heart on it to make me believe everything he says.
Some of my best Valentines days have been when I was single. My single friends and I would go out for an anti-Valentines dinner and have a laugh looking at all of the couples sitting in silence in the cringey forced scenario.
I definitely object to going out for dinner as a couple on Valentines purely because so many restaurants crank their prices up for the night just because you get a heart-shaped piece of shortbread with coffee or something equally moronic.
In reply to M-T-R-T, I probably wouldn't be too upset if Valentines went 'ignored' by the chap, if we were both aware that we weren't going to do anything. I'd be gutted if I'd bought him a gift and he didn't get me anything, but that's just because I'm a brat and nothing to do with whether I'd question his feelings for me. He assures me enough of his feelings, I don't need a crud card with a heart on it to make me believe everything he says.
I've worked with an all-wimin team for 8ys.
On 15th Feb, they all do oneup(wo)manship on each other along lines of 'my boyfriend bought me this' or 'my husband took me here'. I think it's a means of wimin to compare their trophy men.
Personally I reckon the night is more hastle than it's worth. Never bother with restaurants (although 13th or 15th Feb can be good nights for a meal), instead eat in but have to buy some double-priced flowers. The other year, when Palace were in the prem, we had Arsenal away on V day. Gutted to miss it.
On 15th Feb, they all do oneup(wo)manship on each other along lines of 'my boyfriend bought me this' or 'my husband took me here'. I think it's a means of wimin to compare their trophy men.
Personally I reckon the night is more hastle than it's worth. Never bother with restaurants (although 13th or 15th Feb can be good nights for a meal), instead eat in but have to buy some double-priced flowers. The other year, when Palace were in the prem, we had Arsenal away on V day. Gutted to miss it.
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
In my opinion it's one of those things that is nice to celebrate occasionally when you feel the impulse, or if you think you haven't been making time for each other due to other pressures. I hate the idea of having to 'celebrate' it every year; it should be about fun!
Personally, I often forget that it even exists - one year my brother and I tried to go out for a meal on the 14th as he happened to be visiting, and we were totally puzzled as to why we couldn't get a table anywhere until the penny finally dropped - which I guess means that his partner didn't received a pressie and card that year .
My family tends to ignore these things: we don't do mother or father's day, and my parents would usually only remember their wedding anniversary when the card from my granny arrived. They have been happily married for nearly 50 years, so it hasn't done them any harm. Birthdays are a bit random, too. Sometimes we remember them and sometimes we don't: it's not something to get upset about as we're all grown up now! I tend to only give a gift to my brothers on impulse or if I see something that I think they will really like, and that may not even be on their birthday. I do really enjoy buying presents for my other half, but am far too impatient to wait until specific days like Valentines, birthdays and Christmas to present them to him .
In my opinion it's one of those things that is nice to celebrate occasionally when you feel the impulse, or if you think you haven't been making time for each other due to other pressures. I hate the idea of having to 'celebrate' it every year; it should be about fun!
Personally, I often forget that it even exists - one year my brother and I tried to go out for a meal on the 14th as he happened to be visiting, and we were totally puzzled as to why we couldn't get a table anywhere until the penny finally dropped - which I guess means that his partner didn't received a pressie and card that year .
My family tends to ignore these things: we don't do mother or father's day, and my parents would usually only remember their wedding anniversary when the card from my granny arrived. They have been happily married for nearly 50 years, so it hasn't done them any harm. Birthdays are a bit random, too. Sometimes we remember them and sometimes we don't: it's not something to get upset about as we're all grown up now! I tend to only give a gift to my brothers on impulse or if I see something that I think they will really like, and that may not even be on their birthday. I do really enjoy buying presents for my other half, but am far too impatient to wait until specific days like Valentines, birthdays and Christmas to present them to him .
In reply to Bruiser:
the London climbing walls are always deserted on Valentine's day - bliss! Wonder if it's the same in Sheffield....
the London climbing walls are always deserted on Valentine's day - bliss! Wonder if it's the same in Sheffield....
In reply to Nigels:
nah, only if you let it! We used to have big parties (if at the weekend) or invite friends over for dinner (midweek) - good excuse to have a fun time, whether single or not.
nah, only if you let it! We used to have big parties (if at the weekend) or invite friends over for dinner (midweek) - good excuse to have a fun time, whether single or not.
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
Nowt wrong with V day. I like the kitsch, I like the cards, I like the flowers. But then I'm shallow like that.
I'm not so stupid as to think that the bloke buying me flowers/taking me out to dinner/emptying the dishwasher on V-day means he doesn't like me on other days of the year. It just gives him a nudge in the right direction.
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Normal days: method of showing appreciation = hug, sloppy kiss, naughties, making me a hot chocolate, making sure I'm warm enough, fixing my bike, washing my car, picking me up from the station when I'm drunk etc.
V-day: method of showing appreciation = hug, sloppy kiss, flowers (stupidly large and expensive to make up for almost forgetting it), grumbling about the commercial aspect, taking me out to dinner, naughties.
So really not that much different apart from he's more conventionally nice and less practical on V-day. I can suffer that once a year.
Nowt wrong with V day. I like the kitsch, I like the cards, I like the flowers. But then I'm shallow like that.
I'm not so stupid as to think that the bloke buying me flowers/taking me out to dinner/emptying the dishwasher on V-day means he doesn't like me on other days of the year. It just gives him a nudge in the right direction.
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Normal days: method of showing appreciation = hug, sloppy kiss, naughties, making me a hot chocolate, making sure I'm warm enough, fixing my bike, washing my car, picking me up from the station when I'm drunk etc.
V-day: method of showing appreciation = hug, sloppy kiss, flowers (stupidly large and expensive to make up for almost forgetting it), grumbling about the commercial aspect, taking me out to dinner, naughties.
So really not that much different apart from he's more conventionally nice and less practical on V-day. I can suffer that once a year.
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
Just having a laugh with a male colleague about Valentines day and how we both think it's a rip off etc (he's taking his wife out for dinner on the 15th instead as it's cheaper and nicer to go out on a Friday!) and my female boss just turned round to me and said
"You truly deserve to be single" (I'm not)
Hmph. <cracks nose back in to place and sniffs contentiously>
Just having a laugh with a male colleague about Valentines day and how we both think it's a rip off etc (he's taking his wife out for dinner on the 15th instead as it's cheaper and nicer to go out on a Friday!) and my female boss just turned round to me and said
"You truly deserve to be single" (I'm not)
Hmph. <cracks nose back in to place and sniffs contentiously>
In reply to Hjonesy:
Why would you 'deserve' to be single? What does one have to do to deserve singledom?
(I would've thought people who buy those teddies holding hearts saying 'I WUV YOU' deserve to be single...)
Why would you 'deserve' to be single? What does one have to do to deserve singledom?
(I would've thought people who buy those teddies holding hearts saying 'I WUV YOU' deserve to be single...)
In reply to Nao:
Yeah, she meant it to be mockingly offensive. Hmph.
People who buy those teddies deserve to be shot, not just single! Lol
I remember my ex bought me 'World's Best Girlfriend' mug one year. I left him shortly afterwards. Clearly not so great after all!
Yeah, she meant it to be mockingly offensive. Hmph.
People who buy those teddies deserve to be shot, not just single! Lol
I remember my ex bought me 'World's Best Girlfriend' mug one year. I left him shortly afterwards. Clearly not so great after all!
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
My ex gave me his childhood teddy bear... it ponged, and after we split up he wanted it back. I did give it back as i was not fond of it. he thought it was romantic.....
I'm not fan of valentines day, it has never been a big thing for me when i was single and it is not now when i am in a relationship... i just dont see the point in the fuss.
My ex gave me his childhood teddy bear... it ponged, and after we split up he wanted it back. I did give it back as i was not fond of it. he thought it was romantic.....
I'm not fan of valentines day, it has never been a big thing for me when i was single and it is not now when i am in a relationship... i just dont see the point in the fuss.
In reply to Hjonesy:
What a 28 year old wanted with a damn teddy bear I'll never know...
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Don't. Year's ago I was seeing this girl and what she wanted was for valenines day was a teddy bear from the Bear shop. I had to wait in line for about an hour and a half in this process which invloved picking a bear, helping to decide how much sodding stuffing needed to go inside, which cocking outfit "our" bear needed and then we got to the sewing up and I was presented with a satin heart which was to go inside the bloody thing. The witch with the needle explained that I had to kiss the heart before it got put inside the medium stuffed bear and make a wish, so I wished that i wasn't in this f*cking shop. Then we had to pick a name "John Bear" and then his jumper went on. Then we got to leave the shop.> People who buy those teddies deserve to be shot, not just single! Lol
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What a 28 year old wanted with a damn teddy bear I'll never know...
In reply to Hjonesy:
Maybe she meant that you're such a great person that you deserve all of the benefits and happiness that comes from a free and easy life where you don't have to answer to anyone?
> (In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy)
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> "You truly deserve to be single" (I'm not)
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> "You truly deserve to be single" (I'm not)
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Maybe she meant that you're such a great person that you deserve all of the benefits and happiness that comes from a free and easy life where you don't have to answer to anyone?
In reply to Phoenix:
i gave my wife a new umbrella from the market and a necklace made out of my own hair and toenail clippings.
She was realy pissed off.
i will never understand women.
This year im going to give her a stuffed toad in a realistic nest made out of human pubes. she had better like it!
i gave my wife a new umbrella from the market and a necklace made out of my own hair and toenail clippings.
She was realy pissed off.
i will never understand women.
This year im going to give her a stuffed toad in a realistic nest made out of human pubes. she had better like it!
In reply to John Wood:
PMSL! That is hilarious. Erm, have to ask, how long after that did you go out with her for?!
PMSL! That is hilarious. Erm, have to ask, how long after that did you go out with her for?!
In reply to doz generale:
be prepared to de-emasculate yourself, as if you dont she will do it for you
be prepared to de-emasculate yourself, as if you dont she will do it for you
In reply to John Wood: Oi!
Dont knock the Bear Factory!
I adopted Bernard the Bear - I even have a photo of him at home sitting on the settee...
He likes to watch the Simpsons and CSI. Which is good, cos I watch them too...
I have to be careful though as sometimes his fur gets in his eyes and he cant see - I check for this regularly cos I dont want him to get upset...
<cough>
Dont knock the Bear Factory!
I adopted Bernard the Bear - I even have a photo of him at home sitting on the settee...
He likes to watch the Simpsons and CSI. Which is good, cos I watch them too...
I have to be careful though as sometimes his fur gets in his eyes and he cant see - I check for this regularly cos I dont want him to get upset...
<cough>
In reply to John Wood:
HOLY SH*T!!! PMSL. That's an awesome story!! ha ha ha ha. Was she a complete fruit-cake?
It sounds like a clip from that film with Kate Hudson - 'How to loose a guy in 10 days'
Genuis!! I can't believe you have experienced that, it's hilarious!!
HOLY SH*T!!! PMSL. That's an awesome story!! ha ha ha ha. Was she a complete fruit-cake?
It sounds like a clip from that film with Kate Hudson - 'How to loose a guy in 10 days'
Genuis!! I can't believe you have experienced that, it's hilarious!!
In reply to Caralynr:
Oh come on! Are you saying you wouldn't be pleased to receive a bunch of red roses?
> (In reply to Hjonesy)
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> I agree. And apparently we all like red roses
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> I agree. And apparently we all like red roses
Oh come on! Are you saying you wouldn't be pleased to receive a bunch of red roses?
In reply to nickinscottishmountains:
I think it's a pre-emptive strike thing. If you say you don't really want something then you won't be upset when you don't receive it!
I think it's a pre-emptive strike thing. If you say you don't really want something then you won't be upset when you don't receive it!
In reply to John Wood:
My mum and dad got me one for my 15th or 16th.
It has a snoring voicebox and a stripy jumper, called Bear, and is also medium stuffed. =)
I had wanted one for a while so im quite fond of it.
My mum and dad got me one for my 15th or 16th.
It has a snoring voicebox and a stripy jumper, called Bear, and is also medium stuffed. =)
I had wanted one for a while so im quite fond of it.
In reply to Nao:
hah! I've just informed my bf that I'm not doing valentines and that we can celebrate a late Pancake Day instead. I just get a bit kerfuffled by the whole thing. And that mystery card last year freaked me out.
hah! I've just informed my bf that I'm not doing valentines and that we can celebrate a late Pancake Day instead. I just get a bit kerfuffled by the whole thing. And that mystery card last year freaked me out.
In reply to CJD:
Why? Why isn't it nice to think that someone likes you?
I think people go a bit far the other way. I'm certainly not going to object to being spoiled for a day.
Then again... pancakes are good...
Why? Why isn't it nice to think that someone likes you?
I think people go a bit far the other way. I'm certainly not going to object to being spoiled for a day.
Then again... pancakes are good...
In reply to Nao:
oh, I know he likes me it's just the general weirdyness of it all as we don't see each other much anyway.
I'd rather be spoiled with belgian chocolates (errr... there goes the diet) than big fluffy teddy bears etc. And I suspect 'Im Indoors might vy (sp?) with your partner for grumpiness about such matters.
oh, I know he likes me it's just the general weirdyness of it all as we don't see each other much anyway.
I'd rather be spoiled with belgian chocolates (errr... there goes the diet) than big fluffy teddy bears etc. And I suspect 'Im Indoors might vy (sp?) with your partner for grumpiness about such matters.
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy: I'm a bloke and regular poster and don't dig anonymity but am going anonymous here...for V day I'm going big this year getting a red sheet cutting out the letters to spell "[her name] I love you x" from a white sheet and sewing them on to the red one then being a bit cagey and disinterested about V day for a few days before then draping it over her car late night 13th so she sees it early 14th after not getting a card from me
In reply to Nao:
It is nice to think that but I guess if you feel that every day it almost devalues it if you're forced to make some grand gesture about it.
I LOVE being spoilt as much as the next person, but I guess I'm lucky in that I get spoilt on most days in ways that matter to me (things like the bloke does with you - making cocoa, washing car etc) and not ones that are 'really obvious' to everyone else. Far more special in my mind!
> (In reply to CJD)
> Why? Why isn't it nice to think that someone likes you?
> Why? Why isn't it nice to think that someone likes you?
It is nice to think that but I guess if you feel that every day it almost devalues it if you're forced to make some grand gesture about it.
>
> I think people go a bit far the other way. I'm certainly not going to object to being spoiled for a day.
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> I think people go a bit far the other way. I'm certainly not going to object to being spoiled for a day.
>
I LOVE being spoilt as much as the next person, but I guess I'm lucky in that I get spoilt on most days in ways that matter to me (things like the bloke does with you - making cocoa, washing car etc) and not ones that are 'really obvious' to everyone else. Far more special in my mind!
In reply to John Wood:
pmsl great story!!!
To me valentines day is just when all teh shops go inexplicably gross pink and red for a while. And Il never forget the queue of men buying flowers etc when i went to Tesco on the evening of the 13th one year. They all looked so sheepish!
pmsl great story!!!
To me valentines day is just when all teh shops go inexplicably gross pink and red for a while. And Il never forget the queue of men buying flowers etc when i went to Tesco on the evening of the 13th one year. They all looked so sheepish!
In reply to rich:
> when did it stop being just for secret admirers?
When the verb 'to stalk' took on its modern meaning.In reply to nickinscottishmountains:
Haha, no woman can say she doesn't like receiving flowers, not necessarily on valentines day (which is commercial b*llocks).
> (In reply to Caralynr)
> [...]
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> Oh come on! Are you saying you wouldn't be pleased to receive a bunch of red roses?
> [...]
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> Oh come on! Are you saying you wouldn't be pleased to receive a bunch of red roses?
Haha, no woman can say she doesn't like receiving flowers, not necessarily on valentines day (which is commercial b*llocks).
In reply to Flying Monkey:
Same girl banned me from buying flowers after I got her them twice in a month (she was upset about her life) some time later i got asked about why she never got flowers any more?
Same girl banned me from buying flowers after I got her them twice in a month (she was upset about her life) some time later i got asked about why she never got flowers any more?
In reply to John Wood:
Can't answer that one....
Can't answer that one....
In reply to CJD:
You could do the pancakes hearts shaped. And one in the shape of an "A"
(I've done girl's initals in pancake form before and the seem to go down well)
You could do the pancakes hearts shaped. And one in the shape of an "A"
(I've done girl's initals in pancake form before and the seem to go down well)
In reply to Hjonesy:
> (In reply to John Wood)
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> HOLY SH*T!!! PMSL. That's an awesome story!! ha ha ha ha. Was she a complete fruit-cake?
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I couldn't possibly comment! >
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> HOLY SH*T!!! PMSL. That's an awesome story!! ha ha ha ha. Was she a complete fruit-cake?
>
In reply to Flying Monkey:
some blokes are flower-sceptical. I would be happy to compromise with a plant, though. My mother has a flower fixation like my book fixation, so I do rather like them (flowers, that is; I luuurve books), but some blokes just aren't flower buyers. If you're going to take it as some big symbolic thing, I guess it's suggesting something pretty that will die. Though on that vein, pancakes are full of fat and pass through the system with relative speed, leaving only a flabby layer round one's heart. hmm, maybe I should stop this analysis malarkey right here...
some blokes are flower-sceptical. I would be happy to compromise with a plant, though. My mother has a flower fixation like my book fixation, so I do rather like them (flowers, that is; I luuurve books), but some blokes just aren't flower buyers. If you're going to take it as some big symbolic thing, I guess it's suggesting something pretty that will die. Though on that vein, pancakes are full of fat and pass through the system with relative speed, leaving only a flabby layer round one's heart. hmm, maybe I should stop this analysis malarkey right here...
In reply to CJD:
Aye, I wasn't saying men had to, was just responding to a previous comment and saying no woman (well, I'm pretty certain) could honestly say they don't like receiving flowers. At the end of the day, there are other things more important.
Happy pancake making
Aye, I wasn't saying men had to, was just responding to a previous comment and saying no woman (well, I'm pretty certain) could honestly say they don't like receiving flowers. At the end of the day, there are other things more important.
Happy pancake making
In reply to CJD:
Of course you could say that when you give a girl flowers, you're just presenting her with severed plant genitals but that would just spoil the romance...
Of course you could say that when you give a girl flowers, you're just presenting her with severed plant genitals but that would just spoil the romance...
In reply to Flying Monkey:
oh, I think some women could, but I suspect they're the grumpy ones
i'd love flowers, but I can't recall having been given many. Bah! You've inspired me to go and get some after work.
oh, I think some women could, but I suspect they're the grumpy ones
i'd love flowers, but I can't recall having been given many. Bah! You've inspired me to go and get some after work.
In reply to CJD:
Ooooh get you, you little ray of sunshine!
Lol.
> (In reply to Flying Monkey)
>
> some blokes are flower-sceptical. I would be happy to compromise with a plant, though. My mother has a flower fixation like my book fixation, so I do rather like them (flowers, that is; I luuurve books), but some blokes just aren't flower buyers. If you're going to take it as some big symbolic thing, I guess it's suggesting something pretty that will die. Though on that vein, pancakes are full of fat and pass through the system with relative speed, leaving only a flabby layer round one's heart. hmm, maybe I should stop this analysis malarkey right here...
>
> some blokes are flower-sceptical. I would be happy to compromise with a plant, though. My mother has a flower fixation like my book fixation, so I do rather like them (flowers, that is; I luuurve books), but some blokes just aren't flower buyers. If you're going to take it as some big symbolic thing, I guess it's suggesting something pretty that will die. Though on that vein, pancakes are full of fat and pass through the system with relative speed, leaving only a flabby layer round one's heart. hmm, maybe I should stop this analysis malarkey right here...
Ooooh get you, you little ray of sunshine!
Lol.
In reply to CJD:
to which post, there are about 5 up there that are equally pathetic
> (In reply to John Wood)
>
> oh dear.
>
> oh dear.
to which post, there are about 5 up there that are equally pathetic
In reply to Flying Monkey:
ohh but what *sort* of flowers?
service-station carnations are a no-no.
lilies are funeral flowers.
red roses are a cliche
white roses veer towards cliche
michaelmas daisies rock
as do amaryllis (they're so cool!)
bird of paradise plant is trying too hard
gerbera is for the bloke who's a bit shy so wants it to be like a cartoon
freesias smell lovely but you need a lot of them
wrong season for sunflowers
hmm...
ohh but what *sort* of flowers?
service-station carnations are a no-no.
lilies are funeral flowers.
red roses are a cliche
white roses veer towards cliche
michaelmas daisies rock
as do amaryllis (they're so cool!)
bird of paradise plant is trying too hard
gerbera is for the bloke who's a bit shy so wants it to be like a cartoon
freesias smell lovely but you need a lot of them
wrong season for sunflowers
hmm...
In reply to John Wood:
Ahhhh....say it with genitals!
> (In reply to CJD)
>
> Of course you could say that when you give a girl flowers, you're just presenting her with severed plant genitals but that would just spoil the romance...
>
> Of course you could say that when you give a girl flowers, you're just presenting her with severed plant genitals but that would just spoil the romance...
Ahhhh....say it with genitals!
In reply to CJD:
She definitely needs to be listed as 'classic' too!
> (In reply to John Wood)
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> I'd prefer the bear-factory-woman to be listed as 'alarming'.
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> I'd prefer the bear-factory-woman to be listed as 'alarming'.
She definitely needs to be listed as 'classic' too!
In reply to Hjonesy:
I remember Iceaxejuggler who used to post on here saying something about how he'd tried to ask a girl out and it had all gone wrong and instead of saying 'would you like to go for coffee' he said something about 'would you like to accompany me to an owl sanctuary'.
I don't think the relationship progressed much further after that first date...
I remember Iceaxejuggler who used to post on here saying something about how he'd tried to ask a girl out and it had all gone wrong and instead of saying 'would you like to go for coffee' he said something about 'would you like to accompany me to an owl sanctuary'.
I don't think the relationship progressed much further after that first date...
In reply to Bingly Bong:
Yeah, but you've got one for yourself, so you're not king!
> (In reply to Hjonesy) Aren't we forgetting something though?
>
> John actually went through with it!
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>
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> John actually went through with it!
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>
Yeah, but you've got one for yourself, so you're not king!
In reply to Bingly Bong:
Ha ha, I know!! Poor chap. Can't believe he suffered that for so long - she must have had some enviable 'traits' to make up for the cuckoo behaviour.
Ha ha, I know!! Poor chap. Can't believe he suffered that for so long - she must have had some enviable 'traits' to make up for the cuckoo behaviour.
In reply to John Wood: I actually enjoyed telling the girl stuffing my Bernard that she needed to take some out... (I wanted him all nice and squidgy...)
She was plucking stuffing out for ages
I think I pissed her off so much that she resigned. She now flips burgers in Maccy D's...
She was plucking stuffing out for ages
I think I pissed her off so much that she resigned. She now flips burgers in Maccy D's...
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
I wouldn't give a toss what kind of flowers a guy bought me as long as they were priddy!
When I just started seeing a previous partner, he turned up at my house to stay the weekend with a huge bunch of wilting poppies. He said he knew they'd have died off by the time I was next over at his place so he'd picked them for me so I could see how lovely they were. How sweet is that?
Yeah, yeah, I know, a good 90% of you are now making vomit gestures....but I liked it!
I wouldn't give a toss what kind of flowers a guy bought me as long as they were priddy!
When I just started seeing a previous partner, he turned up at my house to stay the weekend with a huge bunch of wilting poppies. He said he knew they'd have died off by the time I was next over at his place so he'd picked them for me so I could see how lovely they were. How sweet is that?
Yeah, yeah, I know, a good 90% of you are now making vomit gestures....but I liked it!
In reply to Ava Adore: Call me a cynic, but that sounds suspiciously like something he'd said before, or read in your copy of Cosmo in the bathroom...
In reply to Bingly Bong: So how would you have reacted to it?
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy: I plan to block it out of my mind this year (I'm single). Well, I may send a little something to a lucky girl or two...
In reply to nickinscottishmountains:
I'd have waited for the inevitable apology for something they did to follow...
Not really.
I don't know what I'd have thought, but it's not me that counts in this particular instance!
I'd have waited for the inevitable apology for something they did to follow...
Not really.
I don't know what I'd have thought, but it's not me that counts in this particular instance!
In reply to nickinscottishmountains:
Ach you Scottish cynic Except you're probably not actually Scottish.
> (In reply to Ava Adore) Call me a cynic, but that sounds suspiciously like something he'd said before, or read in your copy of Cosmo in the bathroom...
Ach you Scottish cynic Except you're probably not actually Scottish.
In reply to nickinscottishmountains:
Don't give a sh*t! Still lovely!
> (In reply to Ava Adore) Call me a cynic, but that sounds suspiciously like something he'd said before, or read in your copy of Cosmo in the bathroom...
Don't give a sh*t! Still lovely!
In reply to Flying Monkey:
Whoa - not sure where the Scottish dig came from?!
It's just interesting to see the reaction to my comment, the women say I'm a cynic, the men don't comment on it at all!
How are you today?
Whoa - not sure where the Scottish dig came from?!
It's just interesting to see the reaction to my comment, the women say I'm a cynic, the men don't comment on it at all!
How are you today?
In reply to Ava Adore: Fair one, I was being a bit provocative. I would like to add that before posting, I double checked that you'd said it was a previous partner; if it was current man, I wouldn't have posted it. Hope that makes sense - not meaning to offend. Happy Valentine's Day next week to you!
In reply to nickinscottishmountains:
Noooo it wasn't a dig at all, that's why I put a smiley face. Not digging Scots, I like 'em, I'm in a relationship with a Scottish guy, it's just cos you started it with 'call me a cynic' and I've read some Scottish literature which levels that as one of your country's traits, that's all
Noooo it wasn't a dig at all, that's why I put a smiley face. Not digging Scots, I like 'em, I'm in a relationship with a Scottish guy, it's just cos you started it with 'call me a cynic' and I've read some Scottish literature which levels that as one of your country's traits, that's all
In reply to Flying Monkey: Sometimes I think cynical is too polite; there's a distressingly fair whack of short angry pseudohardmen up here. I think there are too many people up here who were clearly 11th man picked for the football team, if you see what I mean!
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
I always get my wife something useful, rather than flowers or a card.
Maybe a food mixer or an iron. Something that'll come in handy when she's doing the housework.
I always get my wife something useful, rather than flowers or a card.
Maybe a food mixer or an iron. Something that'll come in handy when she's doing the housework.
In reply to Mr Justice Cocklecarrot:
I once received a dishwasher...
I was a little flummoxed as the washing up was the only job *he* had around the house...
I once received a dishwasher...
I was a little flummoxed as the washing up was the only job *he* had around the house...
In reply to nickinscottishmountains:
I hear ya! I kinda like the Scottish straight down the line attitude though.
I hear ya! I kinda like the Scottish straight down the line attitude though.
In reply to nickinscottishmountains:
Hey, no worries, really wasn't offended! And wouldn't have been even if it were a current partner! And a happy VD to you too! *chuckle*
> (In reply to Ava Adore) Fair one, I was being a bit provocative. I would like to add that before posting, I double checked that you'd said it was a previous partner; if it was current man, I wouldn't have posted it. Hope that makes sense - not meaning to offend. Happy Valentine's Day next week to you!
Hey, no worries, really wasn't offended! And wouldn't have been even if it were a current partner! And a happy VD to you too! *chuckle*
In reply to Ava Adore:
Lol, I think that 'wish' has to be about the best thing about Valentines Day
> (In reply to nickinscottishmountains)
> [...]
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> And a happy VD to you too! *chuckle*
> [...]
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> And a happy VD to you too! *chuckle*
Lol, I think that 'wish' has to be about the best thing about Valentines Day
In reply to galpinos:
No shit sherlock!
But in the interests of being fair to someone who isn't here to defend themsleves, all she wanted from me for valentines day was a teddy bear and for me to cook her a nice dinner, and she helped to stir things as well. I could look at this as an easy valentine's day. A lot of women would have expected a lot more.
No shit sherlock!
But in the interests of being fair to someone who isn't here to defend themsleves, all she wanted from me for valentines day was a teddy bear and for me to cook her a nice dinner, and she helped to stir things as well. I could look at this as an easy valentine's day. A lot of women would have expected a lot more.
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
I've had a few Valentine Days with boyfriends and have always been stuck on what to get them.
People have said to me it's a day for the guy to spoil the girl with chocolates, flowers and big cuddly toys.
I suppose that's true really but then it just gets turned into a day of guilt for me.
Me and my boyfriend aren't really getting anything for each other because we both say that we love them and we show them that every day so why should one date be any different.
I've had a few Valentine Days with boyfriends and have always been stuck on what to get them.
People have said to me it's a day for the guy to spoil the girl with chocolates, flowers and big cuddly toys.
I suppose that's true really but then it just gets turned into a day of guilt for me.
Me and my boyfriend aren't really getting anything for each other because we both say that we love them and we show them that every day so why should one date be any different.
In reply to Anonymous:
Er...Why?
> (In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy) I'm a bloke and regular poster and don't dig anonymity but am going anonymous here...for V day I'm going big this year getting a red sheet cutting out the letters to spell "[her name] I love you x" from a white sheet and sewing them on to the red one then being a bit cagey and disinterested about V day for a few days before then draping it over her car late night 13th so she sees it early 14th after not getting a card from me
Er...Why?
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
Its not a time for women or couples, its for the multi-million pound industry that has conditioned us into thinking that we have to rush out and buy an overpriced card & crap gifts. The same that has turned Christmas into one vast marketing exercise, and that will be after our money again at Easter, Mothering Sunday, Father's Day etc. This week, my daughter will be sending a card to every child in her daycare class because they all do it and I don't want her to be the odd one out.
Bah humbug!
Its not a time for women or couples, its for the multi-million pound industry that has conditioned us into thinking that we have to rush out and buy an overpriced card & crap gifts. The same that has turned Christmas into one vast marketing exercise, and that will be after our money again at Easter, Mothering Sunday, Father's Day etc. This week, my daughter will be sending a card to every child in her daycare class because they all do it and I don't want her to be the odd one out.
Bah humbug!
In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy:
It's ok everyone the love-doctor is back in now.
Flowers were last year, this year it's bling, but if you want to be traditional nothing says "I love you" quite like cocoa sugar saturated-fat and slutty lingere.
HTH.
It's ok everyone the love-doctor is back in now.
Flowers were last year, this year it's bling, but if you want to be traditional nothing says "I love you" quite like cocoa sugar saturated-fat and slutty lingere.
HTH.
In reply to The Crow:
Which reminds me...
> (In reply to Muhammad-the-randy-teddy)
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> and slutty lingere.
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> HTH.
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> and slutty lingere.
>
> HTH.
Which reminds me...
In reply to middnight:
Neither of us do chocolate, or soft toys. Maybe Flowers..... but for me I would settle for a blow job and/of a nice bottle of malt to say "I love you..." after 8 years I guess I'm dreamin".
Neither of us do chocolate, or soft toys. Maybe Flowers..... but for me I would settle for a blow job and/of a nice bottle of malt to say "I love you..." after 8 years I guess I'm dreamin".
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