/ Cook washes up
She'd happily live off oven dinners and "ping" meals eg near zero washing up. So if I want to eat anything freshly prepared, I'm shackled to the kitchen all night.
Fair or foul play?
It's a no-brainer, unless she does some stuff that you don't / won't do to balance things out. If she doesn't, I'd just make fresh stuff for yourself alone!
it's not fair, unless it's in reparation for not hoovering etc.
make everyone happy, buy a dishwasher! :-)
As a joke, and to make a point as well, make yourself a lovely banquet and her a simple 'ping' meal?
Starter and main meal and pudding for you, along with a pudding wine, and biscuits and cheese.
Not fair. Traditional way round is that the person fortunate enough to have been cooked for does the washing up. Ungrateful woman!
> Not fair. Traditional way round is that the person fortunate enough to have been cooked for does the washing up.
Cooking is more interesting than washing up but takes about three times longer, so it balances out overall.
I would not be happy with all cooking and all washing up if there was not other redress. I agree that it's best to talk to her and let her know it is unfair and then cook nice stuff for yourself and leave her to sort herself out.
no question about it...cook does not wash-up but sits in front of the telly after dinner with a single-malt whilst the 'other' does the washing-up.
That said, i am a considerate cook and wash as much as i can whilst cooking and leave things to soak
Just not on mate. The cook does not do the dishes.
Despite being too idle to cook properly herself does this person enjoy your cooking, which I presume is delectable, if so washing up is a sign of appreciation. She is obviously reckoning on only having to wash two plates and an oven tray when she has cooked but that should be your reward for eating her cardboard crap!
That is until I got pissed off with my wife's ability to use 4 sink-fuls of dishes to make scrambled eggs on toast.
My ex was the same. She was like some crazy drummer that insisted on hitting every single drum and cymbal during a drum solo.
I'm serious by the way, have something which takes preperation the day before, and go to town on your own meal, and give her a simple lasagna with some peas.
Probably depends on her personality, but if you could get away with it I would do.
You could say you can only handle so much washing up as well as cooking, so you're having to cut back on the amount you create?
Adopt a 'tum te tum' kind of expression... (:-))
Guess you might need to just kick up a fuss then?
Ok not realistic, but neither is your other half's position. If she wants to eat it, she has to do something for it. Between you, I'm sure you can find an acceptable solution. If you can't, then just cook for yourself until sense dawns.
If sense doesn't dawn, consider your options. One of the least painful might be sabotaging the microwave.
My own character is such that i'd point out the amount of wahsing up after a microwave meal compared to a more elaborate meal, and mention how much healthier more elaborate food can be, if the other person doens't appreciate the diffeence in taste, and insist it isn't fair.
All people approach relationships differently though, but it could only bug me for so long...
Guess it could balance out overall if she does most of it?
When I cook, MrsHike washes up and visa versa.
But like Submit to Gravity's, MrsHike's Friday Risotto produces four days worth of washing-up and creates an arty 3D effect to the splash-back. The main pan needs an evenings soaking followed by chiselling Saturday Morning. With as much wasted food to feed a starving family. I find this very frustrating but just get on with it week after week. Im am of coarse perfect.
Otherwise you may find yourself cooking and washing up for yourself all of the time without any of the other comforts of being with a partner - on your own.
> it's not fair, unless it's in reparation for not hoovering etc.
> make everyone happy, buy a dishwasher! :-)
Ah, I tried that,
I knocked through some old out houses, re roofed it, re-wired,re- plumbed, put in her favourite range cooker, installed built in fridge, freezer and of course a dishwasher, and guess what, she nags me that I don't put my dishes IN the dishwasher.
He should Just accept that he will never make her happy, and don't do the dishes.
Kick her into touch, get an obedient one instead.
Of course, one could suggest that your partner should be trying to keep you happy :).
I reckon do the whole nice meal for you thing - do enough for two, but keep the other half for another night to reheat.
See if she really is happy with microwave meals.
At least if you do it this way you have half the washing up from cooking as only reheating another day :).
If you want a practical compromise, maybe separate clearing the table and cleaning the kitchen from actually washing the dishes and pans.
Trying to cook more stuff that makes minimal mess or that you can wash up as you go along could help, too...
Depends whether you get a long sloppy blow job after or not.
And no blow job either.
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