In reply to Karl087:
> (In reply to Gibson) Potentially handing in her notice if your 4 year old child is being disruptive? Sounds unprofessional and incapable to me. As for crappy wages,or as I found - utter greed, childcare has bled me dry (it is not that bad). In most cases parents are effectively held to ransom by people claiming to be dedicated and willing to assist in the welfare and upbringing of children. If the lady in question is struggling to deal with a minor being desruptive, well she chose her field - cope with it.
Some parents , alas, don't have sensible boundaries, for their children, and that could be the childminders problem too, but then parents should be able to control their child , and not drop off a child that is used to getting their own way on everything, it is not fair on everyone concerned,including the child.
I also don't recognise the description of childminders above, and I would be most interested to hear what the hourly rate is, that is seen as excessive ? ( I would be surprised if it is more than a living wage, and often less)
My wife tends to become , and stay friends with many of the mothers , and often the children, too, long after they have moved on to school, and ( showing our age ) into adulthood.
The relationships described above sound like they need professional help.