In reply to ice.solo:
> (In reply to FesteringSore)
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> Yep, some folks are shallow. And sometimes theyre not, but the connection is.
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> Sometimes (often?) relationships are geographical, not emotional, and dissolve as the location passes.
> I think 20-odd years was a good run. Nothing lasts. There may be no reason beyond simple distraction.
It's interesting, I've a friend I keep in touch with who's been in another country for 7 years, I'm comfortable that things will be fine between us next time we meet up. 20 odd years is definitely a good run, but I understand OP's sadness if he thought he'd made 'a friend for life'. I seem to have a few of those which stem from childhood, while I've other friendships which come and go.
Have just had who I thought was becoming a close friend explain she'd not been clear (about being friends and in what way) because she'd not been confident at the time, in her new job, which took a bit of dealing with. Along the lines 'Great thanks, nice to feel like you weren't being really friendly just because you wanted to be my friend...'
It's part of being human I guess though, misunderstanding one another and finding out who we are as we go along, which is all she's been doing if I think objectively. Confusing as it might have been.