In reply to ThunderCat:
> Confused. When she's 17 you'd be happy to have her staying out at a boyfriends house, but you won't be happy to have them doing it in your house until she's 18?
> It's hard to accept, but they've probably been at it like knives for a couple of years already.
> We had to accept with our daughter. I know it's uncomfortable...but you have to deal with it. Ours met her boyfriend when she was 14. She didnt broach the subject of sleepovers till she was 16 and after a lot of umming and ahhing we realised there wasn't really a logical argument 'not' to let them stay over at each others houses.
> Reason? They were up front and mature about. And because at some point in our own lives, we've been that age. We knew that if we had 'forbidden' it, they would have gone ahead and done it at a friends house or the back of a car, or failing that somewhere grim and potentially unsafe.
> We realised that the more we tried to stop it, the more determined it would have made them and it could potentially have caused a lot of resentment.
> Honestly feel that treating them like adults was a good move.
> They're still together now, five years on. They're engaged, and they live together.
> Must admit though, I'm interested to see how THEY handle the situation if and when they eventually have kids of their own. Hahahahah..
Yep, been there and felt the discomfort too. i had the leg over in all kinds of grim spots as a youth which says little about the girlies i hanged around with and even less about me as I didnt care. I would prefer my girls (X 3) to be warm and safe when they are doing what comes naturally as long as they are old enough. not that me deciding that will ever stop them if they wanted to.