In reply to mypyrex:
> A comment which is often used by people when somebody they know is experiencing problems or difficulties is "If there's anything I can do, let me know".
> but how many who utter the comment follow it up by going and knocking on the neighbour's door and asking if they need any help with anything.
These's both seem a bit contradictory?
In principle I think people can want to be there, but one has to work out how far the other person is willing/able to be there. They may quite want to be, but not be emotionally capable of actually being there to the degree that the other person needs them to be.
So when somebody says if there's anything I can do, one has to almost go through a careful process of seeing how 'there' people can be, in saying hello and exploring it as if it was a new friendship almost, to see if it's a case of two people meshing.
Somebody thinking another person's plight is very sad and how much they can actually be there, can be two different things.
At least that's how it seems to me having lost my Mum seven months ago. One can be surprised by who does turn out to be there, too.
The above is perhaps more about friendships than being good neighbours.
Post edited at 20:11