In reply to wintertree:
> I only stack or pass plates when it's clear the server would struggle to reach them or where asked.
I'm with you on this.
> On the doorman thing, I hate it. I can open a door and cary my own bag, having someone try and do it makes me feel like a feeble OAP. I also have a strong urge to not let other people ever touch my stuff, as one of the steps I take to never be robbed.
This, too. Not sure about feeling like an OAP, but I do feel a bit weird about someone else taking my bag - I don't like the vague feeling that they think I can't manage my own bag.
I don't mind the offer, but I've practically been elbowed out of the way by the porters in a couple of places - not sure if they were purely after the tip or thought management would give them a hard time if the guests were carrying their own bags.
On the other hand, I've been glad of it a couple of times after a long-haul flight when I was knackered!