In reply to lost1977:
BNS?
As has been suggested, try coconut milk, and reduce.
Mrs mwr made a Blue Ribbon award winning Chilli, an American recipe, it was ludicrously hot, so much so that my brother couldn't even take a mouthful(and he's a fan of the Fahl)!
I told her to bin it and chalk it up to experience, and next time to add the hot ingredients to taste later, something which I've always done when cooking a curry. If you can't rescue this one then I suggest you follow this advice!