In reply to stroppygob:
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> Only if they are aware I am doing so surely?
It doesn't matter where you express your views, for trans people, knowing that there are people out there like yourself, who fail to understand their need, their desire and their motivation to have gender reassignment surgery is upsetting. Frankly, doing one thing in public, but behind the anonymity of a forum, saying what you like is just two faced and cowardly.
You just don't seem to get the idea that gender and biological sex are two completely different things. Fundamentally it comes down to being educated, but you don't want to listen, and certainly you seem to be making no attempts at understanding.
From the EHRC discussing transphobia: "Whittle et al (2007) also found that a majority of respondents had faced harassment in public spaces. They noted that ‘73 per cent of respondents experienced comments, threatening behaviour, physical abuse, verbal abuse or sexual abuse while in public spaces.’"
If you extrapolate that out to the between 300,000 and 500,000 people who identify as transgender, that's a hell of a lot of harassment going on. Simply knowing that there are people like you out there, who hold negative views of trans people, will stop people discussing this topic in public to aid education, let alone consider undergoing the treatment and surgery they require to sort out their gender identity.
Someone else asked you at which point you think during gender reassignment, the person stops being a man, and becomes a women. You didn't answer. Why is that? Do you honestly believe that lopping of a mans penis changes him into a women, or giving a women a double a mastectomy turns her into a man? What about the years of hormone therapy they undergo before even getting close to having an operation? How about when they are sat in their bedroom, and for the first time realise that they feel, at the very nucleus of their being that they were born the wrong sex for their gender identity? In the same way people are born homosexual, or asexual, or black, or white, people are born "into" the wrong sex for their gender, and need help and understanding to sort it out. Why is it so hard for you to use the gender noun they want to use?
> If for instance, back in the day, when my daughter was of primary school age, if her teacher Chris, (who she had a massive crush on, ) informed us that as of Monday he would be coming to school in women's clothes, and wanted everyone to call him "Christine", then I surely would have obliged. To do otherwise would be churlish.
If this teacher decided that she wanted to live her life as a women, then it's not about being obliged to refer to her, as a her. You make it sound like an onerous task. It's about accepting that for years they have felt trapped in the wrong body and they finally have the courage do something about it, that they want to become a her, and they want and need your support. It's about having some empathy, being a decent human being and supporting someone making a dramatic and important life changing decision. It's about understanding that they feel so strongly about it, that they are willing to accept the insults, the abuse, the ridicule, and the condemnation from people, whether in public, or on internet forums like this.
Perhaps you'd actually be more concerned about the idea that your daughters crush, "suddenly" becoming a women means your daughter would be a lesbian? And if that's the case, why would that be a problem? Surely as a parent the most important thing is that your daughter be happy.
> But when discussing in the abstract on a forum, whose sensibilities are we taking into account?
> Only those who choose to be offended on behalf of others.
You're basically saying you can do and say what you like when you have the backup of the anonymity of the internet behind you. As your opinion is fundamentally borne of ignorance, people who are willing to support the differences in other people, even if they don't fully understand them themselves need to make the effort to educate those that are close minded and unaccepting of others in society.
Finally:
> By the way, you are aware that there's plenty of studies that show those that react the strongest to issues like this are often the ones that have deep seated related issues aren't you?
> Again, so predictable, boring! Got a link to one of these "studies"?
It's called reaction formation and is well documented:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reaction_formation
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/04/29/opinion/sunday/homophobic-maybe-youre-gay...
http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/shows/assault/roots/freud.html