In reply to Bulls Crack:
Up to the person in question really. Obviously not fully comfy with the style so again, go back and do it in a style which you're (he/she's) happy to sleep with.
F*ck 'beta' go with the heart.
Here's an example from yonks ago: Was trying to free an old Rowland Edward aid route on the Great Orme and was falling off backwards when the loop on my harness caught on a tiny nubbin. Just enought to pull back on and finish the route.
A well-known climber with a London accent was gearing up for a route to the left and I asked 'was that you resting on a peg on Zukator last Saturday Stevie'?. He called me a w*nker and started to undo his harness ... I legged it, fearing for my life - and that's why he never spoke to me for three years 'til The Dervish ... True! Its all in the book (sorry, blatant plug).