UKC

Out of interest is anyone of this UKC parish actually celibate ?

If so and they don't mind discussing it , what are your reasons ? and how do you find it ? 

An unusual question I suppose .

CT

Yes

No one wants to have sex with me. 

OK is that the only reason ?

I'm more thinking along the lines of a mental / spiritual / cultural or philosophical reasoning , although that's a perfectly valid reason in of itself .

So if the offer arose you wouldn't be celibate ?.

I'm considering making my own situation more official .

Not had a girlfriend for years now,  6-7 years maybe , and so to formally declare myself celibate might make it a interesting period of mental adventure.     Maybe its been the lockdown and the medication but I fail to see the reason for any women in my life apart from friends and relatives.

CT

Does Madame Palm and her five sexy daughters count?

Palmela Handerson?

https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/celibacy#is-any-touching-allo...

"Can you engage in any physical activity at all?

It all depends on how you, or the beliefs you subscribe to, define celibacy.

Solo (masturbation)

For some, masturbation is a way to be sexually satisfied without breaking the commitment to celibacy.

It can also be a way to get to know your body on a deeper level without being sexually active with others.

Some people who practice celibacy may also partake in mutual masturbation, where they masturbate at the same time as their partner."

This would suggest no

However I think the hardcore (forgive the pun) celibate may frown upon this.

Apologies for my initial jokey response. This could be an interesting topic. 

I have been celibate for over 2 years since the end of my last long relationship.  I'm happy like I am but certainly wouldn't swear a vow of celibacy if the right person came along.

Birdy raises an interesting point, if you are celibate are you still allowed to enjoy yourself occasionally?

"Can you engage in any physical activity at all?

It all depends on how you, or the beliefs you subscribe to, define celibacy.

Solo (masturbation)

For some, masturbation is a way to be sexually satisfied without breaking the commitment to celibacy.

It can also be a way to get to know your body on a deeper level without being sexually active with others.

Some people who practice celibacy may also partake in mutual masturbation, where they masturbate at the same time as their partner."

I'm sure some very cincere people might take that approach. But to me it doesn't make sense. If you have a partner and you are both having sexual pleasure, it wouldn't make sense not to have it together. 

Good sex (love making) is one of the best and most unifying things you can do with another person. 

Bad sex, just for the sake of it is the opposite.

I have experience of both. 

One of the well documented issues, is that you start off all idealistic:

https://tinyurl.com/ysz9xx7u

But slowly, over time, you end up like this:

https://tinyurl.com/3jupu4xs

Ha ha ha.......

My personal idea of celibacy would be to not have a partner / lover in the first place and not to pursue gaining one or caring anymore.

Not sure what you mean by 'bad sex'. I wasn't aware such a thing existed?

You obviously haven't been doing it with me.

I think you just end up like an older Morrissey. But then that's not far removed from Farridge, anyway...

Rosy Palmer and her 5 sisters?

I definitely don't need to check your profile to see that you're a man!!

Is your forum name because you currently celibate? If so and your situation changes, will you rename yourself?

Yes

Reason - Menopausal partner

How do I find it - difficult, more E6 than V. Diff

Gotta do No Nut November, so no touching of any sort. Very hard tbf. Only ever made it to 3 weeks.

I may have imagined it, but I seem to remember reading somewhere that this 'hardcore celibacy' may be linked to an increased risk of prostrate cancer (in men, naturally) - something to do with a build-up of pressure potentially causing damage, which needs repair, and with more repair comes more risk of mutation in cells. 
So if your priest gives you grief you can explain breaching celibacy was for medicinal purposes.

Not quite sure what excuse could be contrived for women

Is the Pope a Catholic?

Some of the stuff dished out in prisons seems to qualify.

Yeah, this. For a very long time...

Every time I have sex with someone it turns out they're really f*cking annoying

Better than having sex with people who are really f*cking annoying.

Mmmmm?  Have you asked your wife or girlfriend?  With an attitude like that I suspect they may well have something to say.

I recall a mate asking an Irish girl in Finnegans wake (Bristol) back in the day is she wanted to come back to his place for sex and a pizza.

SLAP

you dont like pizza then?

It certainly ain't for me... All that sitting around in the jungle, with other celibacies, being forced to eat cockroaches and kangaroos cocks!?!... No way. Get me out of here! 

I'm not speaking for myself but one of my friends is celibate for religious/professional reasons (he is a Brother in a Dominican-influenced religious order).

He does find it very difficult, especially since his social crowd comes from a slightly different background and has slightly different ideas/values in this perspective. You can sometimes almost feel the internal tension. However, I don't feel the need to speak to him about it in too much detail as, to be honest, people ask him related questions constantly and it must, from what I have seen, get very boring for him dealing with these all the time.

🤣🤣🤣

Following my previous comment and being middle aged, I can see the reasoning behind a mid life "crisis" and the change to a younger partner. Makes me cringe when I see it though. 

https://amp.desertsun.com/amp/4010054002

More positives of celibacy.

Sex is great, but thinking about it all the time can easily cloud your judgment and inhibit logical and clear thinking. The common saying ‘thinking with your little head instead of your big head’ demonstrates this issue. Sex is an incredibly complicated and deep act that affects people’s emotional state, brain chemistry and hormones,” explained Mahalli, adding, “Abstaining from sex can help people who are looking to make more logical judgements in their lives or to think more clearly.”

I became celibate about twenty five years ago after leaving a particularly abusive and violent partner. I couldn't trust women for many years and when I was more or less over it I found I just didn't need to be with anybody. I also found a lot of my time taken up by study so the lack of distraction probably contributed to getting a first. Doubt if I could go back now.

I dunno, I figured he was being tongue in cheek.

I get what you mean though.