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 abr1966 28 Jul 2020

Well....I'm 55 and I've been single and happily so for many years....brought my kids up as a single dad and they've now flown the nest!

I did have a relationship a while back and am divorced from about 18'years ago but I have never 'dated'!

Ive been out for a date....we we.t for a walk, sat and chatted....all really nice, easy and felt very familiar and ok! I do know her a little from work so not a totally new person!

I don't even know why I'm posting to say it....I'm home now, sat out having a beer! It was all a bit surreal...she is very nice, I do fancy her but something kind of made me a little tense at times...maybe I'm just not used to it! I guess I'll just see what happens...its just a bit unknown at this age I suppose!

 dabble 28 Jul 2020
In reply to abr1966:

Good effort on getting back out there.

Too many good folk hide their light under a bushel.

 alx 28 Jul 2020
In reply to abr1966:

Did you ask her what she has done on the Grit?

 abr1966 28 Jul 2020
In reply to alx:

No....but at one point I was trying to describe climbing grades and the differences in UK and alpine systems....then quickly thought to myself I bet this is proper boring to someone who knows nothing about climbing!!!!

In reply to abr1966:

Good for you. Good luck with it. 

 ThunderCat 28 Jul 2020
In reply to abr1966:

Good effort and I hope things develop in the direction that is right for you!

I've often thought that if something were to change in my life (happily married for 20 years so hopefully it won't) the thought of going through the whole getting to know someone again would be too terrifying to even contemplate 😁. 

In reply to abr1966:

Fab, cheers!

 alx 28 Jul 2020
In reply to abr1966:

This is a complete urban myth. To the uninitiated your are like a Sly Stallone and Simon Reeve hybrid. Educated, feral & muscle bound and not afraid to put a bolt in something using a jet propelled gun whilst dangling one armed from a beastmaker 45 on a moderately humid day. The master race.

You avoided the cliche of letting her know you have led E1 indoors?

 abr1966 28 Jul 2020
In reply to ThunderCat:

> Good effort and I hope things develop in the direction that is right for you!

> I've often thought that if something were to change in my life (happily married for 20 years so hopefully it won't) the thought of going through the whole getting to know someone again would be too terrifying to even contemplate 😁. 

It was a bit odd!! I did have moments thinking can I be arsed!! Bit of a funny one though as pretty much my job is getting to know and listen to people so I was having a bit of a word with myself at times!

In reply to abr1966:

> ...then quickly thought to myself I bet this is proper boring to someone who knows nothing about climbing!!!!

That's correct, back away from that conversation.

 abr1966 28 Jul 2020
In reply to alx:

No but she did ask how good I was at it!! Ive only ever been to a climbing indoor wall once and didn't rate it though!!

 freeflyer 29 Jul 2020
In reply to abr1966:

Send her a message saying how much you enjoyed her company? Great post, I hope it goes well. She fancies you as well

Clearly, the kids and any partners may want to know all the details...

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In reply to ThunderCat:

> Good effort and I hope things develop in the direction that is right for you!

> I've often thought that if something were to change in my life (happily married for 20 years so hopefully it won't) the thought of going through the whole getting to know someone again would be too terrifying to even contemplate 😁. 

Tell me about it. Ive been married 19 years in Feb. If owt were to happen I think I'd be terrified of getting out there. 

Well done ABR. The discovery of a new intimacy is one of humankind's most exciting experiences.

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 StoneManky 29 Jul 2020
In reply to abr1966:

> No....but at one point I was trying to describe climbing grades and the differences in UK and alpine systems....then quickly thought to myself I bet this is proper boring to someone who knows nothing about climbing!!!!

If she still wants to see you again after that, then you're in! I mean shit, I climb and if someone started talking alpine to me my mind would start to wonder haha

 Trangia 29 Jul 2020
In reply to abr1966:

> No....but at one point I was trying to describe climbing grades and the differences in UK and alpine systems....then quickly thought to myself I bet this is proper boring to someone who knows nothing about climbing!!!!

Wise man!!

 Dom Connaway 29 Jul 2020
In reply to mountain.martin:

Agreed! Definitely dodged a bullet there. 

 Baron Weasel 29 Jul 2020
In reply to abr1966:

Brilliant!

Now you have to ask her if she wants to spend the night with you... 

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In reply to abr1966:

I can't think of anything much less romantic than talking about climbing grades. It's even a pretty boring subject amongst avid climbers!

 Rick Graham 29 Jul 2020
In reply to John Stainforth:

> I can't think of anything much less romantic than talking about climbing grades. It's even a pretty boring subject amongst avid climbers!

True but that's what my future wife talked about when she was chatting me up.

She probably sussed out that that and another subject was all I was really interested in.

She stopped climbing as soon as we got engaged.

Married almost forty years now

 Hardonicus 29 Jul 2020
In reply to abr1966:

Let's us know if you get yer whistle wet. Until then this is all just conjecture.

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 Baron Weasel 29 Jul 2020
In reply to abr1966:

Have you thought about getting some viagra in case you get 'stage fright?' 

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 nikoid 29 Jul 2020
In reply to Hardonicus:

> Let's us know if you get yer whistle wet. Until then this is all just conjecture.

That did make me smile. Although my wife does call me "The Adolescent". 😁

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 PaulJepson 29 Jul 2020
In reply to abr1966:

I hope you at least touched on trad and fixed gear ethics? She'd think you a punter otherwise. 

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 abr1966 29 Jul 2020
In reply to nikoid:

> That did make me smile. Although my wife does call me "The Adolescent". 😁

+1 !!!

Its a very Hardonicus post....always to the point!

Thanks everyone....really appreciate all the comments. I'll keep my mind on getting my whistle wet if it comes to it a.d will beware of Baron Weasel 'stage fright'!! 😁

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In reply to ThunderCat:

18 years last Saturday for us, if anything happened I probably wouldn't bother. Getting a pro in once a month would be far easier and probably cheaper on balance too. 

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In reply to abr1966:

Good for you, I hope that it works out wonderfully. 

Who doesn't love a good conversation about grading though... At least deep down... 

> No....but at one point I was trying to describe climbing grades and the differences in UK and alpine systems....then quickly thought to myself I bet this is proper boring to someone who knows nothing about climbing!!!!

 ThunderCat 29 Jul 2020
In reply to Dax H:

> 18 years last Saturday for us, if anything happened I probably wouldn't bother. Getting a pro in once a month would be far easier and probably cheaper on balance too. 

I've thought the same in the past. Much less hassle 😁

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 Hardonicus 29 Jul 2020
In reply to ThunderCat:

Yeah but once a month???

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 Timmd 30 Jul 2020
In reply to Hardonicus: The patterns of troubled histories and addiction are possibly something all men should keep in mind when pondering such alternatives to conventional relationships, but I'm figuring the tone is one of tongue in cheekness, so that's alright.

Happy days for abr1966.

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 Baron Weasel 30 Jul 2020
In reply to Hardonicus:

> Yeah but once a month???

Anyone seen Dax H?..

Yeah he's over there, he's the one that looks like a fiddler crab! 

In reply to Baron Weasel:

> Anyone seen Dax H?..

> Yeah he's over there, he's the one that looks like a fiddler crab! 

That and after 18 years married once a month would vastly increase my annual score. 

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 Baron Weasel 30 Jul 2020
In reply to Dax H:

That's not good, have you thought about going to see a Relationship Councillor? Relate are very good, we had a session about 5 years ago and it was the best 50 quid I think I've ever spent. Married 10 years and together 13 and we usually have intimacy one night a week and do it a few times, although it was far less than this until about 2 years ago. 

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 ThunderCat 30 Jul 2020
In reply to Hardonicus:

To quote Zapp Brannigan:

"The spirit is willing, but the flesh is spongy and bruised"

In reply to Baron Weasel:

I'm fine pal, to be fair we probably do only get at it once a month but between our various medical issues and my insane work schedule it's not easy. 

It's hard to feel sexy when just about every joint in your body hurts 24/7 and it's even worse after 12 hours on site. 

On the plus side I have a new service engineer starting in a month so that will take some pressure ff a bit. 

I'm well impressed at your do it a few times comment. I remember those days in my early 30's 4 or 5 times a night was easy, in my late 40's I run out of steam if once takes too long 😢

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 abr1966 30 Jul 2020
In reply to Dax H:

> . I remember those days in my early 30's 4 or 5 times a night was easy, in my late 40's I run out of steam if once takes too long 😢

4 or 5!!!! Good going....mustering up twice was always my limit and that took some doing!! 👍

 Baron Weasel 30 Jul 2020
In reply to abr1966:

V for victory👆

Have there been any developments? 

In reply to Baron Weasel:

Many years ago when my first marriage was having serious problems, we went to a relationship counsellor. On the way home my wife was seriously miffed. She claimed that the counsellor fancied me, so took my side. Which I guess tells you quite a lot about the relationship issues.

 abr1966 30 Jul 2020
In reply to The New NickB:

Or that you are top drawer Nick!! 😉

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 abr1966 30 Jul 2020
In reply to Baron Weasel:

Not really....a couple of texts yesterday agreeing to meet again but nothing muc more! Not sure how to play it....don't want to come across as needy but also don't want to be too stand off!! Its like being 16 in the body of a 55 year old.....I wish I was 55 but in the body of a 16 year old....if only!!!!

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 Hardonicus 30 Jul 2020
In reply to abr1966:

You're right, play it cool and take things slow - no dick pic until tomorrow afternoon earliest.

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In reply to abr1966:

> .....I wish I was 55 but in the body of a 16 year old....

Legal, but not advisable. 

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 Blanche DuBois 31 Jul 2020
In reply to Dax H:

> I'm well impressed at your do it a few times comment. I remember those days in my early 30's 4 or 5 times a night was easy, in my late 40's I run out of steam if once takes too long 😢

Now that's a humble brag personified.

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In reply to abr1966:

> Or that you are top drawer Nick!! 😉

Yes, let’s go with that!

 Cobra_Head 31 Jul 2020
In reply to abr1966:

Did she put out?

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 rockwing 02 Aug 2020
In reply to abr1966:

> Ive been out for a date....we we.t for a walk, sat and chatted....all really nice, easy and felt very familiar and ok! I do know her a little from work so not a totally new person!

> I don't even know why I'm posting to say it....I'm home now, sat out having a beer! It was all a bit surreal...she is very nice, I do fancy her but something kind of made me a little tense at times...maybe I'm just not used to it! I guess I'll just see what happens...its just a bit unknown at this age I suppose!


This is a better news story than anything The Daily Mail or The Sun have put out in years!!!
 

My one piece of advice; always compliment her outfit! The refuse-collector commented my wife's outfit one day before I did and I doubt I'll ever hear the end of it.....

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 Tiggs 03 Aug 2020
In reply to abr1966: have you asked her out again/spoken on the phone..... or is it going nowhere......we need details

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 abr1966 03 Aug 2020
In reply to Tiggs:

Maybe something to report later! She was going away for the weekend and due back today....will see how it goes! After a bit of a high last week from it I find myself quite ambivalent now....then again I do have a bit of a tendency to overthinking!!!

 andyb211 03 Aug 2020
In reply to Dax H:

> On the plus side I have a new service engineer starting in a month so that will take some pressure off a bit. 

But does she fancy the the new "service engineer?"  

In reply to andyb211:

Well he is half my age and well built so probably 

 im off 04 Aug 2020
In reply to abr1966:

Brill post. Respect and good luck.

Hope she's up for belaying....I'd check.😂

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