In reply to gingerkate:
Hello my name is Bob. I don't give a monkeys if a girl I am climbing with is climbing harder than me (or not).
There.
I have climbed some excellent (and hard) routes with girls/gilrfriends over the years. Il Duce, Spacewalk, Fay, Archtempter.... All have been fantastic experiences. Some require a sense of humour/degree of calm.
Something I try extremely hard to do is to regard the person holding my the rope/who's rope I'm holding as a climber (not always easy when it's your girlfriend, I confess). A climber, not a bloke or a girly - if I cared about what sex the person is then I shouldn't be on the route with them.
That's the key people, it's about climbing.
Go ahead, make list's, make list's for boys and girls but don't get hung up on them - see Katherine's posts.
Surely, surely, surely a day at the crag is a day for everyone to have a laugh, enjoy the rock, the weather (hmmm, talking UK here!) and to achieve what they want to achieve. If 'a girl' goes on to make an ascent that is harder than myself or my mates ascent's I would be delighted for her. I would hate to be around anyone who didn't feel the same. (A prolific RT'er of awesome strength and power was shamed recently by many climbers inc. a few girls, at a popular East London climbing spot - he went on to climb the problem but not without a little paddy. Duty dictated we rib him.)
I have learn't much from girls - I'm a shockingly shyt slab climber and one of the most awesome moments I have seen on rock was watching a Lady walk up, and I stress WALK, the top of Wings of Unreason.
Get over it boys. Climbing is for climbers - girls do it too!
Bob