In reply to Vivvi:
Oh dear, sorry this turned into e-fisticuffs in the wee small hours....!
OK, to set the record straight. I didn't feel physically threatened by this guy; perhaps a little intimated but no more than that.
One thing I should perhaps have said but couldn't quite bring myself to say last night was that when I asked him to cool it down he said "but you're wearing a low cut top and you look really sexy". Now OK, he probably just meant that as a compliment but in that context (me having told him to back off) it sounded very much to me like he was saying "you had the goods on show, you obviously want me to get at 'em". Frankly, just made me feel a bit cheap.
And yes, it really isn't good to tell a guy porkies to get him out of the house but I think it would have taken quite a strong woman to be able to say "Look, love, sorry but you don't kiss well, I feel like you're mauling me and you've just made me feel a bit cheap, so please leave and I don't want to see you again". All a guy would have done in that situation (correct me if I'm wrong) is to get offended and either want to argue his case or get nasty. I couldn't face either.
I fully intend to tell him that I don't want to see him again (but probably by email) and shall say that I just don't feel comfortable enough with him to pursue the relationship further. Which is truthful. But just not today...I've had a really good day climbing today and all I plan to do now is flake in front of the telly with my cat and a glass of wine.
Thanks all of you who have been so supportive. Don't feel quite such a loser now!!
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