In reply to Tall Clare
I'm going to go against the grain here but I find the whole business of asking for / expecting money or nice things for you a bit grasping and distasteful and sadly indicative of a materialistic society. Wedding lists used to be to enable couples to set up home together in the days when you didn't live together before you got hitched.
Surely the whole point of having guests is because you want them to share a very special day with you, not because you fancy a shiny new rack / tropical honeymoon.
I accept that most people will want to buy you something, and I suppose having a wedding list set up somewhere if guests ask makes sense, but I would much rather have it left up to me what I buy for the couple and try to give them something which shows them I've actually thought about them.
And as for 'your presence is more important to us than presents....' that makes me want to hurl the invite onto the nearest bonfire - because clearly if your presence was more important then don't even bloody mention giving things! Second only to 'no boxed gifts' in terms of tacky phrases on wedding invites as far as I'm concerned.
But maybe I'm spending too much time on mumsnet where grasping wedding gift lists cause all sorts of outraged debate.....