In reply to Mountain Spirit:
> I've been there twice.
From what you posted before:
> The first time it was for a BTCV conservation weekend near Derby - as far as I can remember the pick up point was Derby Station. The second time was a family walking trip near Bamford and I think the station was Bamford. Here we stayed in a cottage my brother had booked for us.
Going on a trip where you're responsible for arranging your own accommodation, travel, food, etc. is very different from going on trips where you're collected from the train station (or travelling with your family) and everything is arranged for you.
And it can be a lot more stressful and take more practice if you haven't done it before, especially because you're the one who has to take the initiative to make it all happen.
If I had to cancel a climbing trip at the last minute because I was injured or ill, I'd be extra annoyed because I would have lost the money I'd spent on train tickets and the deposit on the B&B room and so on. I have the impression that this hasn't been a problem for you, and that maybe you've not actually done any bookings by the point you cancel.
I have some questions. I'm sorry if they sound rude or patronizing, but I'm wondering if maybe some of these things might be part of what's making it hard for you to go on trips.
Have you ever bought train tickets by yourself before?
Have you ever booked a hotel or B&B room yourself?
Have you travelled round an unfamiliar city before? For example, how would you work out what bus you need to take to get from Sheffield train station to Hathersage?
Have you ever been on a trip somewhere where you didn't have someone else (whether it's your family or Plas-y-Brenin or Glenmore Lodge) making all the arrangements for accommodation, travel, etc.?
If you haven't ever done some of these things or aren't sure how, it's okay -- it's possible to learn and practice, and I'm sure there are people who will be on for helping with the bits you can't manage yourself.
But people can't help solve the problems if we don't know that they *are* problems for you.